Thursday, August 5, 2021

The Isolation Diaries: (Not) The Last One?


Me and the wife, July 2, 2021.


 Welcome to July, and welcome to what will likely be (for now) the last post in The Isolation Diaries series. Onward.


Thursday, July 1:
Working from home, day 290.

The staffing for any holiday weekend at my job is simply insane. No matter how many years go by, and how many holidays occur each year, it's like nobody remembers the plan of calling for volunteers until the very last minute, or until it's too late. 

I, as a responsible individual in leadership in that place, start making plans weeks in advance and always canvass my team for volunteers for every holiday with as much time to spare as possible -- it's not like they don't get incentives for it, they get time and a half (essentially, overtime) to work it, even if it's on one of their normal working days. I collect my list of yesses and nos, plot a schedule for the entirety of third shift After Hours, and send it off to my higher-up leadership (my directors and our executive director) to let them know who will be in and who will not. For July 4th/5th, I did this work in the background over the past few weeks, and sent the list this morning, on my way out the figurative door. 

And then shit hit the fan. 

This year, there are multiple variables for the July 4 holiday -- for one, I'll be working it, both the 4th and the 5th. For two, since the 4th is Sunday, the 5th is the "holiday observed" that everyone gets off, so we have to double-down on scheduling coverage as to who is going to work which day, both, or neither. Some folks working the 4th won't work the entire night, they'll leave at 12 so they get the full holiday -- others put in PTO for the 4th and are taking both days, others put in PTO for the 4th but plan to work normally the night of the 5th, still others from the later half of the week (the Weds-Sat shifts) are coming in to volunteer for the holiday OT, and some others just plan to work straight through normally, on their normal schedules, as if no holiday was taking place. 

When you have seventeen people reporting to you, as I do, this gets confusing. And we need a definitive answer out of all seventeen of them as to whether they plan to be in or not and when, so that we can adjust for adequate agent coverage. It's a headache.

Generally, for the daytime scheduling, one of the daytime directors takes care of gathering volunteers for/from all of the teams at both our site as well as our sister site in El Paso. Said director usually starts way early to help coordinate everything, like I do -- and it's mostly put together a week out. The hecticness comes in during that week after it's done but before the holiday.

This time around, to my knowledge, no daytime director was engaged to put together a schedule, so my list of volunteers I sent over with their schedules for the overnight shifts was apparently the first they'd  really thought of in actually making sure people were going to be working.

For fuck's sake. 

While I slept this morning (as, y'know, Brandon must sleep during the day), seventeen emails went back and forth through the leadership ranks before 11am, everyone realizing from my first email -- setting off the chain reaction -- that After Hours actually has its shit together when it comes to coverage, but the rest of the teams did not. 

Look, I don't pretend to be the smartest person in the world, and I don't pretend that I know absolutely everything in the world about the job I have or the processes that must be followed or the technical aspects that I work with our technicians on every night when I'm on-shift -- but when it comes to running my team and helping to run a full third of our entire program, I have that shit on lockdown. I'm not perfect, of course; I am simply very good. But, it boggles my mind how something as important as holiday coverage can slip the minds of everyone else in leadership, and worryingly enough, it shows me just how disorganized the rest of the program is.

For me, the holiday week will be business as usual -- I'm working all five days, straight through it. I was going to take Thursday the 8th off as a "comp day" for working the holiday, but one of my other management compatriots took that night off in advance with PTO, so I pushed my comp day back to the following Sunday, the 11th. It's fine, it still means I get to stretch out my weekend for an extra day, so it works. 




Friday, July 2: 
Day off. Payday for me.

Last night, Daisy wanted to take a walk through the Humane Society before I started work.

"I didn't think they allowed that anymore," I said.

"Today's their first day back open to full capacity," she replied.

"Okay, then 100% yes."

Truth be told, I'd already had an adventurous day even before Daisy arrived home; a rabbit had found its way into our fenced off garden, and I had to go downstairs to chase it out. Our security camera's battery was almost completely dead, so I had to unplug and charge that, too. Then I got texts from Daisy that everyone in her entire family, including the family who have lived in Alberta for several years, are meeting up in Deadwood, South Dakota in two weeks.

That one needs some unpacking, so let's backtrack a bit. 

Daisy's middle sister lives in Alberta with her husband and their five children, ages 3-ish to 15-ish (I don't know their actual ages/birthdates because most of them were around long before I was). They moved up there from the northeast part of Nebraska about five or six years ago now; when they did, the husband (our brother-in-law) was the one to give me the big white Silverado I drove around for several years before I sold it shortly after we bought our house. 

Aside from being incredibly grateful for that, I...I personally don't really have a lot of knowledge or feelings for these people one way or the other. I'm not saying they're not loved, because they are -- they're family, and the kids are very sweet -- I'm saying that I never really had the chances to get to know all of them really well before they fucked off to the Great White North for the past six years or so, and the kids were all very young when they did so. They even had another one after they moved up there; she's three or four now (again, I have no clue, because we've never met or even SEEN this kid outside of pictures). Ironically, I know our brother-in-law the most out of all of them, as he and I share a lot of mutual interests and have a lot of shared knowledge from various fields he and I have both worked in. I know that must be strange to hear, but it's true. He's also a preacher (part of why they moved to Canada was for him to go to a seminary school of some sort and to start up their own church), so obviously he and I don't see eye-to-eye on everything. His wife, Daisy's sister, has always been very kind to me but also very aloof in our interactions -- I can count on one hand the number of times I have had in-depth conversations with her, about anything, that lasted more than five minutes. It's not for lack of trying; I think it's just that she and I are vastly different people and I don't have the ability or patience for bullshit small talk outside of a work environment where I'm getting paid for it. Also, Daisy and I have been married for seven years and have been together for nine, and I saw her maybe twice a year in all the time they were here in the states and zero times since they moved to Canada, sooo....

Daisy's relationship with this sister is very strained. Daisy is the youngest of the three of them, and this sister is the middle sister. The oldest sister we see all the time as she comes to town with the family a lot (except, of course, when Covid was still a thing). Daisy and her middle sister were best friends for many years and I can't stress that enough. Their relationship sort of grew apart over the years -- Daisy said it started well before she and I got together, so I never saw the beginnings of this -- and grew much further apart after her sister's marriage, her multiple children, and then (of course) the move to Canada -- first to Vancouver, and then to Alberta. Daisy's sister -- like Daisy herself, her older sister, and mom -- are Canadian citizens. The girls are dual citizens, actually. Daisy's sisters' oldest children are too, because they were born before the laws were changed about that sort of thing.

But I digress. The overall point here is that since her family's move north, Daisy's sister really hasn't had that much contact with...well, any of us. Daisy has said that she's become the "holiday sister" because the only time said sister interacts with her is on a big holiday like Christmas, when ALL of us are called at the same time on a big group video call. This greatly distresses Daisy (and it should; it bothers me on multiple levels too) because that's not for lack of trying either. Daisy has tried, a lot, to keep their relationship going. On the rare occasion that Daisy's sister reaches out to her/us and it's not a holiday, it's a big deal and/or there's usually something wrong. 

Anyway, a few days ago, she called Daisy to talk -- out of the blue, and talk normally -- and apparently mentioned something about them coming to Omaha at the end of July to visit while they made their way around the country to see some family and so our brother-in-law could attend some religious conference of some sort. Daisy mentioned this to me at the time, gave a floating list of days they'd be around (all of them working days for me), I told her I'd be delighted to see the kids and the like when they're in town and I could make time for it, and that was about it. 

So, back to the beginning of the discussion -- Daisy's sister's family has a RV, and a giant monster truck they use to haul it around (whatever the Nissan equivalent of a Suburban is, it's one of those things) and a few days ago, dropped the master plan that they want everyone in the family -- the parents, Daisy's other sister/husband and their kids, and apparently us -- to come to Deadwood, South Dakota for a few days in about two weeks.

Daisy did not learn of this directly from her sister, but from the parents after they'd already been asked if they wanted to do it. That sparked a secondary level of irritation in me, but whatever. Daisy's parents are on board, as are her other sister and her family -- Daisy and I are basically the only holdouts, and only because we were never directly asked. This makes us both feel like we're afterthoughts, which...isn't a pleasant feeling. 

Note that Daisy and I have been to Deadwood before, of course -- for our fifth wedding anniversary in 2019, the week the retaining wall collapsed in our backyard. It was a really nice little getaway for us, containing everything from casino gambling to touring an old gold mine to going to see the graves of Wild Bill Hickok and Calamity Jane -- and a bonus visit to Mount Rushmore, which is nearby. The entire area up there is beautiful, full of wildlife and gorgeous scenery you just don't see in Omaha, but South Dakota itself is very isolated, there's not a lot of what you would deem "civilization," cell service is atrocious or nonexistent, and I don't think any of them have any real concept of the internet as most of the cities and little towns up there appear to be about 25 years behind the rest of the country/world. I said it before when we were up there in 2019, but I'll repeat it again here now -- there are zero Trader Joe's or Whole Foods stores in South Dakota. At this point of my life, it's very hard for me to deem a city/state/area civilized without one or both chains having a presence there.

I found it peculiar that of all places to go, they'd choose Deadwood -- but apparently our brother-in-law's family has some history of visits to western South Dakota, and perhaps even some property up there somewhere, I dunno. It's also not the most...ideal? place to take a grand total of nine kids and expect them to not be incredibly bored or restless the entire time. I was a kid once, we were all kids once -- trust me when I tell you there's nothing for them to do up there aside from like, hiking and other outdoorsy stuff. Even for simple, very religious people (which both of Daisy's sisters' families are), it's boring. 

Don't get me wrong here -- I loved the South Dakota trip we took two years ago -- but I loved it because it was somewhere I hadn't been in 30 years and I needed to get out of Omaha and experience something different for a few days. Aside from the touristy places though? It's not like there was a lot to do there. Most of the state really appears to be empty farmland, mountains, and high prairie.

Daisy, who is a ball of emotions about this entire scenario, asked me if it would be possible for us to make the trip, given my work schedule and my need to save all possible PTO for the WV trip. I told her that...well, I didn't really think so, at least not for me. I have to save every possible earned hour between now and August to have enough PTO accrued to take the trip back home to see my parents, and even then it's going to be close. Even if I moved my comp day to later in the month to compensate for the trip's travel time, I still would not have any breathing-space time to do...well, much of anything but constantly run, hardcore, to make the trip happen and then return to Omaha to immediately return to work -- basically meaning I'd be running for eleven days straight with no real weekend/downtime and zero sort of any buffer zone. Not to mention the money involved for the trip, which...well, we don't really have to spare with another actually planned vacation coming up in August. Even with my newfound energy levels, I can't make extra PTO appear on my timesheets to really make it work. I told Daisy that since it was obviously very important to her, that she could absolutely go and I would support her doing so to get that family time together that she so desperately needs.

"No," she said, "I don't want to go do it without you."

Really?

"The family time with the kids, that moment in time where all of us are together in one place for the first time in six years," she continued, "I don't want to miss that. I don't want you to miss that."

"...are they not legitimately coming to Omaha like a week and a half later anyhow?" I asked.

They are; this is a completely valid question. But, during the trip to Omaha, Daisy's oldest sister and family won't be able to be in town at the same time because schools are starting back up in Colorado at the end of July -- at least their kids' charter school is, anyway. This is, apparently, the one and only shot to get all of us together in one place at the same time. 

I asked to table the discussion for a few days while I could think about whether we actually wanted to uproot our lives and go do this, with almost no notice -- if we could afford it, if there was a way for me to be able to get away from work to do it without getting penalized or to cut my WV trip short, or what. Daisy agreed, almost emanating a sense of relief when I asked the question.

So to get back to the present-present, Daisy wanted to walk through the Humane Society to see the cats.

When Daisy is upset, stressed, or depressed, this is her #1 go-to activity. Cat therapy. Seeing and interacting with all the shelter cats soothes her and centers her. Except for the past year and a half, the shelter has been on lockdown due to Covid restrictions -- and they were rebuilding their entire facility -- so we couldn't do it.  

Well, it's not anymore. July 1 was its first day fully open to the pubic again, mask-free, no restrictions.

First of all, the new facility is gigantic and gorgeous. It is very clear they put a lot of money into it. We wanted to see it just as much as the cats. Also, we knew that cat (yes, that cat, the cat Daisy rescued) was still there, and we wanted to...I guess check on her? Make sure she was all right?

It took us a while to find her; the facility is sprawling and there are multiple levels to it as well as multiple rooms. Finally, we came across what appeared to be a "cat rec room" of sorts -- that legitimately had a sign posted on the door that said "[Cat's name] is an escape artist, so watch the door as you go in and out]" or something like that. Daisy and I exchanged glances, confirming our suspicion of how she wound up in the shelter in the first place, multiple times. 

But there was something I noticed immediately upon entering this room -- she was in a room with multiple other cats. She was high up on a perch so that she could survey the entire room, but multiple cats were in there with her and she wasn't hissing at or fighting with them.

The little old girl was sleepy. I rubbed her and petted her smoothly, talking to her sweetly. She purred, but it was very clear that we'd interrupted her nap and that while it seemed like she knew who we were, she just wanted to sleep and didn't want to interact with us a whole lot. When we left the room I was even more sad and distraught. As we walked out, an older lady (probably my parents' age) and her daughter (probably around our age) were going in, and they were talking about this little gray cat they'd seen on the website who they wanted to meet in person.

"[Cat's name]?" I asked. When they replied in the affirmative, I told them "We rescued her off the streets and brought her here, we were just checking on her now!" and Daisy and I both told these two women the story and of how we couldn't take her, etc etc. 

The old lady listened intently and told us that she had adopted a cat at the age of five and had to just put it down at age eighteen due to health issues, and said she thought this cat would be a wonderful replacement. We told her how sweet this kitty was and how much she just wanted a quiet loving home.

"Oh, and if you do adopt her," I said, "please change that stupid name they gave her." 

The ladies laughed and then went inside to look at her. We continued through the facility and I was almost in tears because I was so relieved that yes, maybe someone who wanted that little girl could actually have her. When we left, she was still sitting in that room on the perch, and the ladies were gone. I became distraught. 

"Adoptions are done for the day," Daisy told me. "They're closing in ten minutes." This made me feel a little better but I was still rather sad.






Saturday, July 3: Day off.
Sunday, July 4: Working from home, day 291.
Monday, July 5: Working from home, day 292.

Addendum to the above: when we got home from the shelter and I began logging in for work, I turned to Daisy and asked her, "if she's still there by the weekend...do you just want to go get her and take care of her, and we can just deal with it? Tough it out, let her get used to our cats, and just do it?"

"If you want to," she said, "yes."

Saturday morning, upon waking up, I booted up Twitter and was greeted with a featured post by the Humane Society about that very cat, which appeared to have been posted that morning. There were three pictures of her, all of her sitting on the same perch (I guess she really liked that perch).

In the past few days, I've nearly obsessively checked the website and she has always been on there. I began to lose hope that she'd be adopted out, and thought that perhaps the older lady and her daughter had not come back to get her the next day. The featured Twitter post had been shared nearly 100 times and had a ton of likes on it. So I loaded up the page and...

The cat is gone from the website!

Someone came and adopted her!

I called Daisy into my office to show her and there may have been some weeping, I can't exactly remember, as I was a big ball of emotion. It was not weeping that she was not ours, but because I was so happy that she was (hopefully) off to her forever home and hopefully with someone who would love her just as much as we would have.

"Are you sad that we didn't just go get her?" Daisy asked me.

I thought about it for a moment. "No," I said, finally. "I just want her to have a loving home, and all I ever wanted for her was to be safe and happy and loved."

So, so ends the story of the cat, I guess. Unless she escapes yet again, and we see her back on the NHS website yet again.

Saturday was a long day for me/us. It's a long weekend for the wife, of course -- she has Monday off because of the "holiday observed," but I have no extra time off so it's a business-as-usual weekend for me, and that entails getting everything taken care of I'm forced to do on any other weekend -- while also cringing every five minutes when the locals light off fireworks that are so loud they shake the windows.

Yeah, day or night, doesn't matter the time, apparently -- the past week has proven to us that the state of Nebraska is far too lenient on fireworks laws and ordinances, and especially within the city of Omaha. There's supposed to be a few-days-long period where you can light off fireworks in Omaha, and it legally ends at 11pm each night -- however, I have routinely heard massive ones still being set off past 1, 2 in the morning almost every night for the past week. Last night one was set off pretty close to the house at 2:15 AM (I wanna say on our street or the next street over), and it was loud enough to wake me out of my nap. Brandon was not pleased. 

I also hate consumer-grade fireworks. I think most of them should be outlawed. Bottle rockets and roman candles and the like are fine, firecrackers are fine, sparklers and snakes and smoke bombs are fine -- anything above or past that should be outlawed at the consumer level, especially inside cities. You want to see big things explode? Go to a commercial fireworks display here in or around town. Sit and enjoy it. Stop making my neighborhood sound like it's being shelled for a week straight. There's no excuse for that horseshittery. 

Because it's a holiday weekend, however, I expected there to be some sales and promotions going on at various shops, both online and in person. The grocery stores had some amazing sales this past week and into the weekend, but as I didn't really need anything, we didn't partake in them. I did, however, get an email from the Payne Glasses folks, saying that they were having a "buy 3, get 1 free" sale.

Oh goddammit, you've sucked me in.

Look, "buy 3, get 1 free" isn't a fantastic deal or anything, and of course the free one is going to be the lowest-price one just wiped off the bill, but it got me looking. I found out from several friends that I can get the lenses in my favorite older pair of glasses swapped out for new ones (see last month's post) but it can be expensive depending on where you get it done. While that may (eventually) be an option for me, I can get new full pairs from Payne for probably cheaper and get a free pair. 

Oh hell.

I immediately went onto their website and found the pair I'd had my eyes on (hah! eyes on!) for a few weeks, a giant pair of thin-rimmed silver aviators. I immediately applied multiple options to them, including some higher-index blue-blocker lenses, and added them to the cart. Three more pairs to pick, I thought to myself.

I got another pair of browline glasses, very similar to the old 50s-60s style ones I used to wear all the time, but of higher quality, and applied the same options. I then found a pair of oversized round tortoiseshell frames that I just applied the basic options to (I knew these would end up being the free pair) and another similar browline pair that I applied photochromic lenses to -- so that they'd darken when I was out in the sun. 




At that point I was done; I called Daisy into the room to tell her that this sale was taking place and asked her if she wanted me to put it on my own card or on our FSA health card. She said to put them on the FSA card, so I did, and forwarded her the receipt.

As you can see, the Payne Glasses aren't incredibly cheap, but they're a far cry from what you'd pay in a doctor's office. The aviators are, of course, the most expensive pair I did up, and they may be one of the most expensive frames/lenses combinations on the whole site. 

I really won't need glasses for a while now, once these arrive. Also keep in mind that the "make good" order from them is still on the way as well, and should be arriving this week. They're delayed a day or two because of the July 4 postal holiday.

Still nothing new from the USPS, by the way.

Anyway, I hope they get here before we go to South Dakota, so that I can take at least one of the new pairs with me.

What's that, you say? Yeah, so I guess that's going to be a thing. 

Over the course of the holiday weekend, Daisy and I crunched some numbers in regards to PTO necessary as well as for travel expenses -- gas, food, lodging -- and decided that we could conceivably make it work. It would not exactly be easy and it would still be fairly hectic, but we could theoretically make it work. Daisy began doing searches for lodging and hotels, and found us a Super 8 (ew) in Sturgis -- the town that Harley-Davidson built -- that was overpriced, but not godawful-overpriced. Sturgis is not that far from Deadwood and actually is a decent little centralized location to use as a base of operations for the few days we'll be there. 

And, most importantly, we're going to be there several weeks before the giant motorcycle rally. So at least we don't have to worry about that. 

How do I feel about all of this?

Meh, I guess.

I realize it's really important for us to do it, and especially important for family relations and goodwill, but it comes at a very critical time of the year for me to save PTO for. I once more pushed back my "comp day" for working the holiday weekend (with my boss's approval/halfhearted blessing) to two weeks away, and we did our calculations for my PTO -- I should have just enough accrued by the time we take the WV trip to put in one more day for this trip to Deadwood, to give myself some buffer time. It's not something I wanted to do, but it would not be possible to do this trip without it. 





Tuesday, July 6:
Working from home, day 293.

The holiday weekend was rather quiet. I would rather not have been at work on the clock for it, but I don't know if I could've picked a more relatively peaceful holiday weekend to work. There were no huge incidents, no major outages, no major staffing concerns that weren't almost immediately dealt with, and workloads were light. Here's hoping the rest of the week will be as nice (though I somehow doubt it will be). 

So what else is going on?

Daisy finally ordered her glasses -- she used both Zenni and Payne to get deals and got something like 6 or 7 pairs, I don't know how many. She even did "express" shipping on them to see if they'll arrive before we leave for South Dakota. My own glasses may not, but eh. It's in the fates' hands now -- I ordered mine before we knew we were going on the trip at all. I know at least one pair will -- the "make good" pair arrives tomorrow, provided that the USPS can actually deliver them to the right address this time.

There's still been no updates whatsoever from the USPS on my two missing package claims I've filed with them -- they will not respond to my multiple email requests to give me an update on their findings. Today I researched who the postmaster general was in the Omaha area and obtained his email address and phone number, as well as the email address and phone number of their "customer relations coordinator." I will give the USPS another 48 hours or so, and if no contact, I'll light them up. My job at work is to escalate on technicians and workcenters -- you bet your ass I have no problem doing so with the postal service as well. I was born for this. I don't want it to have to come to this, mind you, but when nobody seems to be properly doing their jobs (if at all), well...

This afternoon, I got up and did some laundry, both for peace of mind as well as to try to make sure the smaller chores around the house are done as much as possible before we head northwest. In preparation for the trip, I looked into duffel bags on Amazon -- I'd rather not have to lug my suitcase up to South Dakota when I really only need about three days' worth of clothing. I found a few cheaper options but haven't pulled the trigger yet; the one I really want won't be in stock until after the trip, making it pointless. I'll mull it over for a few days. Meanwhile, over the weekend, I purchased something like $45 of various trail mixes so that I can have something to eat that will sustain me but will not fuck over my diabetes while on the trip. We learned a few years ago that South Dakota really doesn't have a lot of...well, options period for most vegetarians or vegans, so we have to be creative. With my diabetes now as well, we have to be even more creative and I have to be mindful at all times of what I am eating versus what I'm not, and how often, so that I can take my Metformin without it wrecking my stomach.

[EDIT: I did go back and get a duffel bag for $11, two nylon dirty laundry bags for $10, and a day/night pillbox for $5.]

As an aside I've grown rather fond of my new diet -- lots of nuts, trail mixes, salads and other green vegetables, with limited carbs and lots of fiber to offset the ones I do ingest. In the overnights, if I'm not particularly hungry for something else, I'll eat a few sticks of string cheese or some nuts and chug a can of V8, to put something on my stomach so I can take the pill. V8 and I have become close friends over the last several weeks. I've always loved V8 anyway, it's good for me, and it's like drinking room-temperature soup. I can get a case of the low-sodium version on Amazon for $15 or so, and 6-packs from Walmart for $4 if I'm in a hurry. It generally hits the spot, gives me the vegetables/vitamins I need, and won't make me fatter -- all of which are a big plus. 

I do need to do an order soon from Walmart to restock on string cheese and a few other essentials, like Powerade Zero and the like for the car trip up there. I'm always going to feel like I've forgotten to get something or do something, and generally that's just my stress or anxiety talking. 

In other news, my mother reached out to me today and asked if we were willing to postpone our trip to WV until sometime in September. We are -- I absolutely am willing to do so as it will give me more time to accrue more PTO, and if I do it around Labor Day I can legitimately save myself from using at least ten, if not fourteen or sixteen, PTO hours to make it work. The downside to this is that I won't be there for my parents' birthday (yes, they share a birthday, but not the same year). My mother, on the other hand, doesn't think over Labor Day is a good idea because she doesn't want to travel around that time and doesn't think it's a good idea for us to do so either, what with everyone on the roads. I told her that if we're pushing it out to September, that's about the only time I can do it and have enough PTO hours to put in for it to cover it. So at the moment, we're at an empasse. Daisy has already informed me that she is free and clear to take that week for our trip to WV and that it's been approved by her boss, and I'll need to let my own work folks know as well. Luckily, I had not yet submitted any PTO for the WV trip because we were trying to lock down the days for it. 

Plus side, pushing out that trip until then means I can put in hours to take Sunday, July 18th off, and give myself a buffer day once we return from South Dakota, meaning I get an actual "weekend" day here at home with nothing to do but rest and decompress instead of immediately going back to work once we get back from the trip. We're returning Saturday the 17th. Nobody at work has to know that; they can think I'm not getting back until the 18th and returning to work on the 19th, that's perfectly fine with me.

So much to do, though, between now and then.

I did do some other stuff over the 4th of July weekend -- we had a cookout at the parents', where I ate some of Daisy's mother's bread for the first time in a few months -- and I went to Burlington and picked up five or six new pairs of shorts to work out in and be comfortable in. We went to the gym twice, on Friday night and again last night before I started work (they were closed on the 4th, and on Saturday we were pretty busy). Last night I beat the hell out of my arms and upper body on the arm bike at high resistance, and worked to get my stamina back up on the treadmill so that I can, eventually, do it at jogging speed again for a half hour or more at a time. It's all a process, and a process that I like getting back into the groove of. 

I don't expect my A1C to be much lower when I go back in to get it checked after our South Dakota trip -- it will likely be somewhat lower, as should my blood glucose, but I don't expect it to be substantially so. Any progress whatsoever will not disappoint me, but if I were to show the doctors great progress then I could prove to them that I actually give a shit and have been working to rid myself of this diabetic bullshit. 





Wednesday, July 7:Working from home, day 294.
Thursday, July 8: Working from home, day 295.

I wasn't on the computer long enough to write either of these days. This week has been a mess.





Friday, July 9: 
Day off. 

As mentioned above, this week has been a mess. It has been hectic, it has been crazy, and there's been an ungodly amount of shit that we've just had to take care of, both inside and outside of the house, at work and at home, before we can fully prep to go on our semi-impromptu "vacation" to South Dakota next week. 

Daisy's new glasses from Payne arrived in the mail today. I got my re-shipped pair from them earlier this week, and have been wearing them ever since; they are very comfortable and lightweight, and exactly what I expected them to be. I actually think the Payne prescription seems less...harsh? Like yes, it's still very clearly my correct prescription, but it doesn't seem to hurt my eyes of make everything feel shaky/wobbly like the optometrist's glasses or the Zennis did. I dunno. Maybe I'm just more used to it now. The other pairs I ordered over the 4th of July sale arrive on Monday, so there's that. We'll have them before the trip.

The duffel bag, laundry bags, pillbox, and all of the trail mixes I ordered have arrived as well. For $11, I thought I was getting a standard-sized duffel bag -- not small, but not something overly huge. Oh, hell no. What I got was a bag large enough to stuff all three cats, a 24 pack of soda, all of the clothing and toiletries I'd need for a month, seventeen laptops, a bookshelf of DVDs and a small child into all at the same time. It is HUGE. 

Like, I'm not mad, it's giant and will be more than adequate for our trip to South Dakota, but...it's bigger than my actual suitcase I was planning to take, and I wanted something half that size. For $11 though, well, it can't be beat I guess. It's fine, it is what it is. If nothing else I'll find a use for it around the house after the trip, and find a more sensible duffel bag for gym and short-travel use at some time later. 

I also did a Walmart order (it arrives in about two hours) for more string cheese, some Powerades and V8 for the car/trip, and a few other essentials as well. I told Daisy that whatever she wants/needs for the trip we'll have to get soon, but my needs are pretty well-covered at this juncture. I even plan to wear my new-ish (I bought them last year during the pandemic) trail shoes for the outdoors walking/hiking/whatever activities, so I'm really set, even.

Earlier this week, though, Daisy decided that she wanted a new phone, and that it needed to be done now, right now, couldn't wait.

"Why would you want to take a very new, very expensive phone with you on vacation and risk it getting lost, stolen, or broken on the trip?" I asked. 

I asked this because I need to get a phone upgrade too -- my iPhone 7 is ancient by tech standards these days, and the battery on it is failing on me. The phone itself works fine, but if I can't get the battery to last longer than an hour or so when I'm running an app/playing a game, and when it drops about 10% per hour when it's not even doing anything...it's time to get a new phone. I'm never too far from a charger, but still -- the last thing I want is for the phone to eventually not work at all unless it's plugged in and drawing power from an outlet. I may as well have a landline in that case. 

I also am wary about getting a brand new, very expensive phone only to possibly break it, lose it, or have it be stolen on a vacation. 

I should mention that a few nights ago, after over seven years of being married and having separate phone plans, Daisy and I combined our phone plan into one. I had to "relinquish" my number and transfer it to her account, and she had to accept it and add it to her account. After that, the change order had to be accepted and updated by Sprint/T-Mobile before it would solidify us as one unit, one account, with two lines and two phones. We had to wait to do this because it would not let us do it while we were still under contract with them paying off our current phones -- my phone was paid off about a year and a half ago, and Daisy has a Galaxy S8 -- which was paid off well before that because that phone is ancient as well -- though, ironically, not as ancient as my iPhone 7. Were we to upgrade our phones separately we would not have been able to combine our plans while one or both of us was still paying off said phones. Since then we've basically just been putting it off.

Daisy, however, wants the new phone for pictures of the family and of the kids next week on our trip, and because she's extra, wants the highest end phone possible -- the new Galaxy S21 Ultra. Daisy has also broken the screen on every phone she's owned (some phones she's done it more than once on), so I'm taking bets on how long the screen on this $1400 phone will last before she cracks it, at the very least, if not shatters it completely. 

I, meanwhile, just want a fairly basic phone with the newest and most reliable hardware and battery, on an operating system I like to use and want to use (which is not Android, because Android phones make no sense to me), so I chose the iPhone 12 Mini. Why the Mini? Because I need a phone that will actually fit in my pocket, won't take several hours to charge, and I loved the size of my old iPhone 5 -- the Mini is only slightly larger than the 5 (it's actually slightly smaller than my 7). 

Over the course of the past few days, I've heard from no fewer than five people something along the lines of "why someone would want a tiny phone in 2021 is beyond me." Because I don't want to carry a goddamn tablet everywhere I go, that's why. I like what I like. 

As a side note, I would have likely picked the iPhone SE (which has the hardware of the 11 in the case and form-factor of the 7/8) were it available for the promotional discount/trade in we're doing for our plans, but it's not -- only the 12s qualify for the promotion we're doing. And, as a further side note, I did consider getting the 12 Pro Max, because it is indeed a very nice phone -- but upon checking it out in the store last night, I did confirm that it is huge and would not, especially inside a case, fit in the pockets of most pants/shorts I own in any sort of comfortable fashion. And I just don't want a phone that big. A phone to me is an appliance and a time-waster for games and the like, I don't need something crazy, I just need something that works. 

So, with Daisy settled on her extra phone and me settled on the iPhone 12 Mini, we made our plans to go get the upgrades done tonight -- they do a phone-to-phone transfer in the store that moves everything on your old phone to the new one, so apparently the old way of backing everything up on your own is no longer an issue...except...

Daisy takes pictures. A lot of pictures. And she saves almost every one of them. Over the four years she's had her Galaxy S8, she's taken something like 12,000 of them. Do you know how long it takes to back up and/or transfer 12,000 high resolution photos to a computer or Google Drive or what have you? A very long time. Daisy did not want to risk something going wrong with a phone-to-phone transfer in the store, nor did she want to sit there waiting for what the store folks said could be up to 90 minutes, so for the past two nights she's been trying to back up the photos herself so that she can get them off her old phone and the phone-to-phone transfer goes quickly and seamlessly. She's not had great results. 

I, meanwhile, only put a bunch of memes on my phone and I did a thorough cleaning of its "hard drive" last night to delete and eliminate almost everything that I could that was either taking up extra space, was no longer used, or I could go back and get later if necessary. That includes apps, pictures, files, messages and attachments, etc. I spent a few hours doing this as meticulously as possible and I'm not sure I got it all, but I got most of it. On an iPhone, most of the drive space is used up by the apps and system themselves, and not by the actual media you put on it -- at least on mine, anyhow. Maybe I'm an atypical iPhone user, I don't know.

So, anyway, as I write this I am waiting on Daisy to decide whether we're actually going to be able to go get the phones tonight (looking more and more unlikely at this juncture) because of the slow file-backup time, or if we're just going to have to go back in the morning to do it then. The T-Mobile store closes at 8pm, and it's now currently 6:15. The Walmart grocery order is being delivered between 7 and 8 (I set this up several days ago before we decided to do the phones thing tonight) and Daisy wanted us to go to Trader Joe's afterwards to get what she needed/wanted for the trip...sooooo yeah, my guess is that most or all of this is going to have to wait until tomorrow. 





Saturday, July 10: Day off.
Sunday, July 11: Working from home, day 296.

The events of these days are covered in the "intermission" post "The Class III Killstorm" that you really need to read before continuing here or you will...ahem...not understand a lot of what's to come. Thanks. 





Monday, July 12: Working from home, day 297.
Tuesday, July 13: Working from home, day 298.

A return to normalcy after the events chronicled in the "The Class III Killstorm" post above for two nights of fair-to-middlin' normal work before the South Dakota trip. During this time there was lots of packing and finagling involved to get everything taken care of before leaving the house for four days in the middle of an Omaha summer, so it was rather hectic (and sometimes expensive) to do it all.





Wednesday, July 14
Thursday, July 15
Friday, July 16
Saturday, July 17
Sunday, July 18.

The events of these days are covered in the posts "South Dakota, Part 1: Live, from Sturgis" and "South Dakota, Part 2: Live, from Deadwood" that were put up before this one, so read those first to find out about our South Dakota adventures....and then come back here. 




Monday, July 19: 
Working from home, day 299.

After returning safely from South Dakota, everything is nearing normal again. I have now done all of the laundry from the trip, and the cats are now used to us being back home. Life has basically returned to status quo. We went over to the parents' yesterday afternoon (they'd returned from South Dakota on Friday, a day before we did) and I delivered to them the knitted blanket I'd picked up for them from Wall Drug. Today, Daisy returned to work and tonight I will return to work via my "office" downstairs. Bills are paid, groceries are in the house, and the power and internet are both working (though the internet went down for a bit last night in the overnight hours -- glad I wasn't working then). I even ordered another pair of browline glasses I'd wanted before but hadn't purchased, and got the wife and I two wireless charging pads for our new phones -- since those phones support wireless charging. 

During the week I was out of the office (well, six days) I had over 2500 emails come in to sort through -- most of them just issues being worked, with very few that I actually need to pay attention to once I return tonight, and even fewer still requiring something actionable on my part (maybe 1-2% total). The house remains fine and I am actually energetic and alert for once.

What's upcoming for the rest of the week? Well...

Tomorrow night after 7pm I have to enter a fasting period again, as my next check-in for my blood glucose and A1C is 7:30 in the morning on Wednesday. I will once more have my blood drawn and the tests ran to see where I'm at, so to speak. After six weeks of Metformin and a lot of drastic changes to my diet, I'm hoping to be in better territory than I was at the beginning of June. I've lost about ten pounds (net), though my trip to South Dakota and the foods I ate there during that time didn't help me much on that weight loss/carb-counting journey. Still, I feel better, I think I look better, and I am not incredibly concerned about the trip to the doctor either way -- I'm not even nervous. It is what it is, and there's no reason to stress out about it. I have to be doing better than I did before, at least. If I'm not, I'll be incredibly surprised. I don't plan to make a big "event" post about this doctor's visit because I expect it will be pretty quick and pretty normal. 

I'm also looking forward to the first regular weekend I will have this month -- even though it's only Monday. I crave some real downtime at home with nothing to do, really. The family comes into town at the end of the month, the first weekend of the month was July 4 weekend, the second weekend of the month was the storm, and this past weekend was South Dakota -- I look forward to this being a normal weekend without incident and I hope that's what it is. There's no rain or storms in the forecast, Daisy and I don't have anything on the docket to do, and Brandon just needs some breathing room. 





Tuesday, July 20: Working from home, day 300(!)
Wednesday, July 21: Working from home, day 301
Thursday, July 22: Working from home, day 302
Friday, July 23: Day off
Saturday, July 24: Day off
Sunday, July 25: Working from home, day 303.

July sucks.

Most of these days were spent working and sleeping and not doing much else. We returned to our normal lives, we went back to the gym (occasionally), we got groceries and paid bills. I spent the vast majority of my writing time here not updating this post, but writing the massive two-part South Dakota posts "Live, from Sturgis" and "Live, from Deadwood." I haven't had time for much other writing as I need to get those stories out while the details are fresh in my head -- and even a week later, some of the details are starting to fade, which I don't want to allow to happen before they're written and on the page. Here's a brief rundown of everything that's happened over the course of the past few days:

1. My doctor's visit on Wednesday morning was fine. I am still diabetic (of course) but I lowered my A1C from 8.5 to 6.8 in the span of six weeks. I was thrilled, the doctor was thrilled, and she told me to keep doing what I'm doing -- basically diet, regular exercise, and Metformin -- and that I can return for the next check in and A1C blood draw in six months. That would be January, and around the time we'd try to schedule our yearly physicals anyhow, so I'm very okay with this. With some discipline I'm hoping I can get the diabetes basically reversed over the course of the next year or so, to where it's no longer a true health concern for me.

2. Daisy has begun gathering quotes for repair or removal of the splitting tree out front, which I covered in the second South Dakota post. Various folks have gotten back to her, none of them with any true estimates for how much it would cost (or any possible timeframes). A few of them will be coming out to take a look over the course of this next week or so. I've asked Daisy to schedule these people for evenings if possible, or on days she's working from home, so that I can actually sleep during the day.

3. It's been unbearably hot this week and is projected to be over 100 later in the week, with heat indices reaching around 110 or so. We've kept the house closed up as much as possible and our AC unit has been working almost around the clock to keep the house pleasant, but every time I step outside for anything, I almost faint. It is simply miserable.

4. Last night, as Daisy was cleaning up the last of the kitchen dishes, our kitchen sink clogged. We spent hours unsuccessfully trying to plunge out the clog with two different plungers, as well as using Drano, and while it drains, it drains very very slowly. We also found that our garbage disposal is leaking water down under the sink -- possibly from our plunging efforts but also probably not, as the machine is ancient and has sounded for months like it's trying to die on us anyway. We put in a claim with our home warranty folks to get the clog snaked out (it's not the first time this has happened) as well as to likely get the garbage disposal replaced. That was $107 we'll never see again, with the bonus that they can't do anything outside of Monday-Friday business hours, so at bare minimum it'll be sometime tomorrow before they come out to the house. 

I'm trying to remain positive about everything, but man, it has been hard. Shit will get fixed and everything will be okay, yes, but that doesn't make it any less stressful right now, not when we're bleeding money from every pore and when we can't use the kitchen sink, and when it's too hot outside to breathe. It's all so goddamn frustrating. 




Monday, July 26: Working from home, day 304
Tuesday, July 27: Working from home, day 305
Wednesday, July 28: Working from home, day 306
Thursday, July 29: Working from home, day 307
Friday, July 30: Day off, payday for me.

I will once again reiterate that July sucks.

Sunday night, when I went downstairs to work, I turned on my computer and as it booted, it began making a very loud fan noise, with a slow ramp up to deafening sounds, almost like it was a 747 trying to leave the runway. I messed around with it and opened the case, and found that it wasn't a case fan or the CPU fan, but the power supply fan -- which was on and blowing at full blast.

Knowing a bit about computers as I do, I used some canned air to blow out any dust inside the box (remarkably little), blew out the inside of the fan, and did some exploratory surgery on it. I unhooked one of the PSU's three plugs -- computer died. I plugged it back in, computer came up. I unhooked the second plug -- computer died again. I plugged it back in, computer came up. I unhooked the third plug, computer died a third time, began beeping at me for some weird reason, and then came up normally again when I restored the plug.

Okay, so there's no way to cut power to the fan itself without cutting power to the rest of the machine. Well...shit. The PC (as well as the power supply and the hard drive) were ice cold, so it's not like it was oveheating or anything like that. I began doing research -- apparently the fan will kick to high/full speed for a number of reasons, such as:

1) the BIOS settings on the machine were screwy, usually after a Windows Update accidentally glitches/resets something

2) one of the heat sensors on the PSU itself has burned out and thus, the machine thinks it's constantly at a high temperature, so the PSU fan compensates

3) the PSU fan itself is going bad (like, the bearings in it and the like)

4) the hard drive is going bad and overheating from boot, and thus the fan runs as hard as it can to compensate (unlikely, but we'll get to that)

5) the motherboard could be dying -- a common problem on older HP desktops, like mine

6) the capacitors on the motherboard may be going bad and/or holding a charge longer than they should when the computer is powered off, so when it's powered back on, the PSU kicks on the high fan in response to a power drain, or

7) who TF knows?

In most cases the quick solution is to -- yes, you guessed it, replace the power supply. I've done this before on a few of my machines in the past, and it's not difficult. It's the three plugs, and four screws -- remove the old one, screw in and plug in the new one. The replacement takes about 2-3 minutes. It's exceptionally easy to do for these mass-deployed machines that we have for my job. They make those machines incredibly easy to work on and swap parts for. Part of the problem, however, is that I do not own this machine, it's owned by my job. I can't just go buy parts and swap them out willy-nilly, even if (and I do) I know what I'm doing. 

Well, I mean, I can, but I'd rather not go out of pocket for it, so I tried a few troubleshooting solutions I was able to find first -- I first did what techs refer to as a "power clear," which involves unplugging the power cord and holding the power button to drain any and all power from the motherboard and capacitors -- this worked for some people to clear the issue if it was a problem related to #6 above. It did not work for me. 

I then tried to get into the BIOS to check the fan speed settings and change them back to low if they were stuck on high -- this did not work either, as access to my system's BIOS is admin-locked out by our company (this surprised the hell out of my boss). I then tried to get into Windows Update to make sure that I had the latest and/or roll back to a previous version, if it was an update installation that had caused the problem. That unfortunately didn't work either as Windows Updates are -- you guessed correctly again -- admin-locked out by the company. I then researched ways to manually run/check and install Windows Updates from the command line (hey, I've gotten really good at command-line stuff from running Linux on all of my machines for 15 years) only to find that wouldn't work either.

By the end of Sunday night at work, with what sounded like a 747 roaring in my ears from two feet away on my desk, I was beginning to reach my wit's end because of the noise and had already researched replacement power supplies online. 

I will stress again that these HP desktops my entire team uses for our jobs are old. They are the same HPs that we had in the office when I began working there seven years ago, and over the years as long as the components inside them work, they upgrade them as necessary (about once every 2-3 years, max) to add new RAM, upgrade the OS, etc. I started out there in the office on a HP very much like the one I have now. At the time it had 2GB of RAM in it and was running Windows Vista. Yeah, Vista, in 2014. I swapped computers for the first time in 2015, to another HP machine running Windows 7 on it, and had 4 more GB of RAM installed and upgraded to my third machine in late 2018 or early 2019, which is the one I brought home with me. It's been a remarkably good machine since I brought it home, now that I'm only constrained by the VPN we use to access our client tools -- it's been fast, reliable, and (until recently) quiet. I had no real complaints about it. 

Replacement OEM power supplies on newegg, for my exact machine (and the exact same model number as the one currently in there) were $25. I began to wonder if it was worth the hassle of just doing that.

Why would I wonder this when PC repairs are covered and taken care of by the company, you might ask? It's the process. 

I've had multiple agents reporting to me need to get their PCs swapped out over the years, and the process for it is what kills me. A ticket has to be opened, then you have to chat or email the IT group, who opens another ticket and sends that to our local group here in Omaha, then that group has to build and/or otherwise ready a new PC -- at that juncture, a timeframe is scheduled for you to bring your machine up to the one remaining building our company has in Omaha in order to swap it out. It's a process that usually takes several days, multiple emails, and a lot of finagling to make it happen -- and since Covid hit, the restrictions on folks, who can and can't enter the building, mask policies, etc etc -- are all that much harder. 

"If you swap it out yourself," my boss told me, "be damn sure to yank it right back out of there and replace it with the shitty old one when you leave the job and turn the computer back in to the IT people. Don't let this company get any of your money and parts."

That's actually one of the smartest things my boss has ever told me.

"I actually have a few PSUs that would work in that machine just laying around," he said. "I'll even give you one if you want, I don't care."

My boss is, most of the time, a really good guy.

Daisy was not thrilled with my plans to spend money to fix a part on my work computer, at all. 

"If I can fix it myself, the small bit of money is worth it to me to not have to deal with the process of trying to get our IT folks to fuck around with it on their time, not mine," I said. "It's always on their time and it's always a process that takes forever."

Still, on Sunday night, I started the process.

Five days later -- today, as in this morning, I could finally take the machine in at 8am after I got off work. That meant for every night of work this week I was forced to listen to that fan noise, all night long, from 10pm to 7am. I felt like I was going to go insane. It was so loud. It droned out everything else. It was unrelenting, it was awful, and seemed like it got louder and harder as the night went on (likely, it did, as the computer became more and more taxed).

So this morning I took it in to the only office building my company has left in this town -- and the oldest one of all of them we once had, I might add. This was the building I did my training in back in 2014, and we were a completely different company then. I also noticed maybe 50 cars outside, in a lot with probably 300 spaces. It was very clear that the vast majority of our corporation was still working at home.

I took the computer up to the door and swiped my badge -- the badge that literally hasn't been around my neck or used anywhere in well over a year -- and it didn't work. I swiped it again, it didn't work. I didn't exactly expect it to, since I'd never actually "worked" in that building, but I wore it so that I could be identified as an employee and not a creeper hanging out with a PC under his arm.

An electrician (also with a badge) who was going in and out actually let me in, kindly, as he saw I was an employee -- he actually should not have done that due to our security standards,- but I wasn't going to complain. I talked to the security desk guy, who I've worked with time and again via phone over the years, and he called upstairs to our IT department to let them know I was there.

At the same time, another employee had come in to get his computer swapped out -- not anyone I recognized, of course -- and the IT guy I work with frequently came downstairs at the same time. He took the other guy's computer first and then told me he'd be back down with a new one for me. 

"Uh..." I said, "to swap out the hard drive and/or the power supply?" I asked. "Because there's no way for me to back up the stuff on this machine, it's here and it's what I have."

This wasn't exactly the truth -- I could back up some of it, my important personal files and the like, but I couldn't back up the tweaks and settings/config changes I'd made over the years, I couldn't back up all of my saved logins and saved Outlook configs or anything like that. The important stuff I was able to back up in a folder on our shared network drive, but if I got an entirely new machine I'd have major issues getting everything else set up again before the weekend was done, and I knew that.

Guess what? 

Yes, after an hour of waiting, and then another hour of actually setting up the machine to work properly in the little lab area they have set up downstairs for that sort of thing, I did get an entirely new machine -- a new Dell Optiplex of some sort. Smaller, super quiet, and with a solid-state drive in it. My work computer is now new(ish), state of the art, and goddamn lightning fast. I thanked the team, brought it home, and hooked it up. After about a half hour of configuring things, I have about 90% of everything I need to work normally again on Sunday night when I return to the office -- the only other stuff I need is some settings to be manually applied here and there (some of them to likely be applied by my management), and my softphone to be activated and fully set up again for the new machine. I could not believe how fast the new machine was -- it was a night and day difference. It'll also really help my stress levels at work, as half the stress that I experience is because I have to wait so long for everything to load. That's not a problem on the new machine. Oh, and the new machine has at least 8GB, maybe 12GB, of fresh RAM in it too. My regular powerhouse desktop upstairs (you know, the one I am typing this post on right now) has 16GB and I don't think it's as fast as the new work machine is because of the solid-state drive. 

So, in hindsight, I have to admit that the wife was right in the sense that I should follow the process and just do it their way instead of spending money on the old HP to fix it and be socially avoidant. And I'm glad I didn't buy the new power supply and mess with it myself, since I got an awesome new computer out of the deal. 

And so ends that story, which has been my primary cause of stress over this week. However, it's not been my only cause of stress.

The sink got fixed on Monday morning shortly after I went to bed; Daisy got a very early call from the plumbers contracted through our home warranty, who told her that we'd be the first ones on the docket for the day since nobody else was answering their phones. They came, snaked out the drains downstairs and cleared any and all clogs we had in there, and as a bonus -- since we had watched it leaking -- they fully replaced and swapped out the garbage disposal with a new unit as well. That plumbers' call alone likely made our home warranty pay for itself for the entire year -- a new garbage disposal isn't cheap (most of the ones I've seen are between $85 and $120 on their own, just for the unit), and snaking out drain lines isn't cheap either, but when you talk parts, installation, and labor altogether...without our home warranty we would've likely paid $500 or more to get that taken care of. 

So yes, when/if you buy a house, purchase a home warranty, you WILL need it. And re-up it every year as long as you can. Ours covers all major appliances, plumbing -- including toilets and our water heater -- electrical, heating/cooling (so, our furnace and AC unit), our garage door/opener (I think) and our washer/dryer. It's like $60 a month, but let me tell you, it does pay for itself. 

As for the rest of the week, it's been a long slog at work, punctuated with 747 noise rattling through my skull, long hours, agent stupidity, customer stupidity, and my shift this morning (before I went to replace the computer) ended with some mild power hits as a small thunderstorm rolled through the area. Another, stronger one with more rain rolled through in the overnight hours as well; these are not storms I'm concerned about because they're not severe and there's not a ton of wind with them to where I would have to worry about the tree(s) out front -- it's more rain than anything else, and we do need the rain.





Saturday, July 31:
Day off. 

The Canadian side of the family is still stateside for now, in Iowa. They're supposed to be rolling through Omaha by the end of the weekend on their way back up to the great white north...however, most/all of them have been sidelined with being sick. 

Sick with what, you might ask? Who TF knows. As mentioned in my previous post(s) here, none of them are vaccinated -- not a one of them. Daisy has been in contact with her sister, who mentioned this afternoon something along the lines of "I'm feeling better, my sense of smell and taste are coming back now" which throws up huge red flags to me when we're supposed to be seeing them again in 2-3 days. Mom and Dad called us last night, very late for them (going on 11pm) to tell us that they just talked to their scentless, tasteless daughter and she had confirmed with them that she was not out of the woods yet and had a fever of 102. There are seven people traveling cross-country in that van together and if even one of them has Covid, all of them will and do -- there's not really any way to avoid that. 

For now, everything's up in the air with them. Daisy made it very clear that she will not see them upon their return to town, if they even stop here at all now, without negative Covid tests. I won't either, as much as it will pain me to not see the kids, especially my shadow niece. Dad offered to let them use the house in Omaha has a base stop for the RV if they still plan to come through here, so that he can help them as he can. All of us -- the parents, and of course Daisy and myself -- are vaccinated, but the Delta variant is not fucking around and all of us are in at least one, if not more, high risk categories. I match up with three high risk categories, actually -- former smoker/current vaper, obesity, and diabetes. The Delta variant is infecting a lot of people, even the immunized, and the most current data that just came out today says that it doesn't matter if you've been vaccinated or not, the Delta variant is equally transmissible between all people -- which means the vaccinated can act as carriers without experiencing any of the actual effects of the virus and not even know they have it. I don't know how that sounds to you, but that is fucking terrifying to me. Not knowing whether you have the virus flowing through you? Not knowing if, upon being face to face with someone, your presence could be signing their death warrant? Holy shit, man, WTF.

Now mind you, there's a point of concern here for us too. The Canadians began getting sick very early this week, which was about 8-9 days after we'd last seen them in South Dakota. Do you understand how many people all of us interacted with in South Dakota, almost all of them maskless? Holy Jesus, we took six children to a very crowded and insane Mount Rushmore. Plus, all the people at the lake, the campgrounds, the Spearfish Canyon trails, grocery stores...everywhere. Just from the time they spent in South Dakota alone, the Canadians could've picked up Covid from virtually anywhere, and even more scarily, likely whoever passed it on was a vaccinated person. 

Daisy and I have not had any ill effects since we returned from our trip, and have gone about our lives as normal. I still smell and taste normally (allergies not withstanding) and due to my diet and Metformin routine -- along with the gym when we go -- I am feeling really good most of the time now. I haven't felt sick at all, of any sort. Daisy really hasn't either, nor have the parents to my knowledge. 

During the time I spent swapping out my PC yesterday morning (with an IT guy who seemed very anti-vax in conversations with him), he told me that they were making plans to move 300 people back to site, back to the building we were standing in -- don't worry, none of them were me or  my folks -- but that they'd now basically canceled plans to do that because of how fast the Delta variant is spreading and how states like California (where our home company is based) are going on lockdown again. 

While I'm worried about my own health, of course, and the health of the populace, I do have to admit that more quarantine lockdowns are good for business for my current job and position of working from home. Lockdowns mean that my team isn't so swamped with issues that they can't breathe (because nobody's opening trouble tickets because they're not in the office to physically notice issues, our ticket loads had a steep dropoff for most of spring and summer 2020) and that the status of our program remaining work from home for the absolutely foreseeable future/forever is basically guaranteed as long as we're all employed under our current contract. It also likely means that Daisy will be transitioning back to more working from home than working in the office as well, and her new position with the new company taking over her firm may be entirely remote. We'll have to wait and see on that, of course, but damn would that be nice. 

However, because it looks like a lot of our current quarantining/social distancing activity is about to resume again, and because it looks like stuff is gonna start sucking again -- at least for a while -- I have decided that this will not be the last post in the Isolation Diaries series, and will be writing at least one or two more to cover the next couple of months...as the world descends (or spirals into, possibly) the second wave of Covid-19. 


Once more into the breach, my friends...

Tuesday, August 3, 2021

South Dakota, Part 2: Live, from Deadwood

 [The events in this post occurred Friday, July 16 to Sunday, July 18, 2021. If you've not read the previous post here, "Live, from Sturgis," go back and read it now or you're going to be lost here and won't know what's going on or why I'm talking about the Black Hills and camping.]



Friday, July 16:
Adventure Day 2.

The overall plan for Friday was only roughly sketched out by the morning hours when we awoke -- a morning spent in Spearfish Canyon doing nature hiking stuff (something I'm not a huge fan of when it's super-hot and I'm sleep-deprived, but whatever, it's vacation) followed by the Denverites leaving for home, a picnic-style lunch with the family, and then campground time with the Canadians before we left the next day. Fairly simple, right? 

So we thought, anyway.

As an aside, we did figure out what was going on with all of the Corvettes -- we'd arrived in town during the Black Hills Corvette Classic, an annual festival that starts in Sioux Falls every July, where hundreds (if not thousands of Corvette drivers gather and drive across the state to destinations in the Hills for events and the like. I was able to read up on it once we were back home, but apparently 2021 was the 50th anniversary of it...so it was a big deal for a lot of the folks involved. I couldn't find literature on this year's events (since it's over now), but here's the banner for next year:




As a further aside, I believe that photo is at least several years old, as I believe that's the old overlook point I remember as a child in 1991, driving up to see Mount Rushmore then. It's either that or it's a particularly bad photoshop job, because today, that road right below Mount Rushmore does not actually, presently, exist. Where the yellow Corvette in the photo is at the base of the mountain is the actual monument complex itself and amphitheater area, so it's either a really old picture or bad photoshop.

Anyway, the location points of the Corvette Classic don't really change much every year; however, in 2021, one of the stops was in Sturgis (Thursday), which explained why we saw so many Corvettes in and around that little town, and also explains why hotel rates were through the roof and hotels were booked solid. It wasn't just tourist season, it was the Corvette equivalent of Bike Week. 

So, back to the main story...

We got up decently early in the hotel on Friday morning; I believe I was awake around 7 or so, primarily because I had to poop. I find it difficult to, ahem, use the bathroom while on vacation or traveling, as my sleep and eating schedule ends up being so skewed and out of sorts. Coupled with the (sometimes subconscious) knowledge that I am not at home and do not have access to my home toilet, it takes a few days for my body to adjust. Add to this that even with a different eating schedule, I'm still not eating that much at all -- my appetite has nearly disappeared a lot of the time now that I'm on the Metformin -- and I hadn't actually done any business on the toilet since Wednesday morning, approximately 48 hours before. 

I'm sure you needed to know all that.

Anyway, I sat on the balcony in the morning air for a bit while I waited for Daisy to awaken -- the air in South Dakota is amazing, some of the cleanest, most fresh-smelling (and breathing) mountain air I've ever experienced. It's one of my many favorite things about the state. Because I'm not used to it and because I don't know what allergens are in said air, however, part of my daily pill routine was to take two allergy pills every morning when I woke up -- right out of my old-man pill dispenser.

I had a lot I wanted to get accomplished while on vacation up there that, up to this point, I hadn't done. Some of it, a good chunk of it, wouldn't happen on this trip because of time, energy, and money. Here was my rough list that I compiled before we left Omaha:

1. Wall Drug, especially the outside/back-end parts of it I hadn't seen since 1991
2. Seeing the rest of Deadwood we didn't get to experience in 2019 (like the museums/history stuff)
3. Mount Rushmore
4. Devil's Tower
5. Souvenir Shops / "Trading Post" places 
6. Blaze Pizza
7. Taking the parents to the vegan restaurant in Rapid City

Some of this stuff I would get to do (obviously), but some of it I wouldn't, for various reasons -- for example, you already know we didn't get to go to Devil's Tower, and the vegan restaurant in Rapid City that Daisy and I loved when we were up there in 2019 became a victim of Covid and closed down. Not to mention that the parents were already leaving town by the time we got up on Friday morning anyway. 

We had money to basically do whatever; before we left town, I posted two large payments to two of my credit cards and set travel notices on them for the days we'd be gone. As such, I had like $700 available to use on whatever we wanted, whether that be food, touristy things, souvenirs, gas, etc. Daisy ended up paying for the gas on the trip from her own card(s), and as she covered the hotel room as well, only a small chunk of what was spent during the rest of the trip was paid for by me. Most of the time she took care of stuff before I had the chance, whipping out her own card for incidentals wherever necessary. I wasn't necessarily opposed to this, but it sort of made me feel like a bit of an asshole at times. I'd make up for some of this later, but we'll get to that. 

Once Daisy was up and about in the morning hours, we attempted to get directions to where the family was going to go for the nature walks/hiking in Spearfish Canyon. We got the barest of minimum directions -- I don't know or remember how, as there was almost zero cell service up there -- from the family, and we dressed and headed out. 

I was not exactly dressed for hiking; that's mostly my fault. I had on a pair of shorts and my flip-flops, with a Smiths t-shirt and a heavy workshirt over it that I used as an overshirt/jacket/pocket for my vape materials. It wasn't sunny when we left the hotel; it was actually sort of dark and overcast, so I didn't even wear my sunglasses -- though Daisy did stick them in her fanny pack to bring with us. If I'd realized how uncomfortable I'd be most of the day, and/or how goofy I'd look in the many pictures that would be taken of me that day, I probably would have planned a better wardrobe. 

This isn't exactly our fault, though.

In our rush to get ready and get on the road, Daisy, before we left the house in Omaha, had cut open her hand on...something, I can't remember what. It wasn't a deep cut, but it was the kind that whenever you move your hand, it opens over and over, and is painful. She cut open another spot on her hand the next day, too. It had gotten to the point where it was bothering her so badly that she declared we needed to get some liquid bandage for the cuts so she could actually go about her life without being in too much pain on her vacation.

We looked up some places that would actually have liquid bandage ("New-Skin") in stock -- the first place we went was a grocery store chain called Lynn's DakotaMart, which is basically the only big grocery chain in South Dakota from what I've seen -- this was in Sturgis proper, in the "downtown"-ish area, which wasn't incredibly far from the hotel. On that drive we got to see the true touristy side of Sturgis, as the town does cater heavily to the motorcyclist culture that it's known for. There are a lot of bars and saloons, and we were able to drive past the famous "Iron Horse Saloon" that is pretty well-known in biker culture. What surprised me more than anything else was the number of bikers already there and motoring around Sturgis during our trip. I don't know if these folks were locals, people passing through who decided to stop in Sturgis because it's Sturgis, or if they were legitimately bikers already starting to populate the town in anticipation of Bike Week -- which, when we were there, was still over three weeks away. Regardless, their numbers were substantial.

Lynn's DakotaMart did not have the liquid bandage, but they did have some paper plates and compostable tableware that we needed, and we got some chips/drinks and paper towels, too. All of this would later come in handy by the evening hours. 

"Target has to have it," I told Daisy. "If anywhere out here has it, it would be Target."

The nearest Target was in Rapid City, so away we went.

Target did not have it. Target didn't even have anything close to it. 

Walmart in Rapid City, down the street from Target in a different plaza, ended up having it in stock. Daisy purchased it, painted her wounds closed with it, and away we went. 

During this time, as we had cell signal on the road and in Rapid City, we also found out that everyone had been at the hiking site waiting for us for over an hour (I have no idea how these people get up and mobile, get everyone into their respective vehicles, and get to where they're going all within like, an hour or so when most normal folks actually have to take time to actually wake up and go through normal wake-up processes), and had finally gotten tired of waiting on us, so they'd gone up the trails hiking already. 

Classy. I mean, I get it, but still.

Spearfish Canyon is large. It's a very big area that stretches many miles south of the town of Spearfish (the "city proper" as it were), and stretches almost all the way down to the Deadwood area -- probably farther than that, actually, one way or the other -- I only know the barest amount of geographical details about the area. Since we had signal, we were able to get the directions and map out our journey up the canyon to the meetup point. It was...some ways up the canyon itself, through hundreds of twisty turns (filled with Corvettes) that felt like twenty miles or more. It may very well have been -- it's difficult to gauge distance when you're driving up curvy roads in the mountains. Our destination was a "landing area" of sorts with a lodge at the trail head -- from there one could walk up a multitude of hiking trails and become one with nature:




Or dress poorly and look really out of place, whatever works best for you.



So, as they'd waited long enough for us (thanks, New-Skin), we'd been told that they were just going to head up the trails and that they'd see us when they came back down, but we could hike around a bit or what-have-you -- we were given the impression that it wasn't a large area, and that if we "went a-hikin'" ...we'd run into them eventually.

We found the parking area, which had but one spot left open in it, and I knew it was the correct one as I saw the Canadians' behemoth Nissan passenger van parked there right at the entrance to the trail head. We did not see the Denverites' vehicle, which sort of concerned me at the time, as I feared maybe we'd missed them. It turned out (unbeknownst to us, because both of us were stressed and not paying close attention) that we parked legit right next to them, since their SUV is so nondescript and bland that it doesn't stick out in a sea of other nondescript, bland SUVs.

Something else I want to mention before we go further is that it was fuckin' hot outside that day. You can see from the photo above that it's bright and sunny, which (I'll remind you) it had not been when we left the hotel -- well, being around water also made it unbearably muggy and humid too. Do you know what happens when you go into the wilderness and it's hot and muggy and you're around water? The kind of flies that bite you so hard they draw blood like to live there. No, I'm not talking about mosquitoes -- these are flies, like horseflies but smaller, and they bite you. Each bite feels like a small bee sting, and most of them literally draw blood. The bites also itch and scab over and take forever to heal. To this day, a few weeks later, I still have fly bites on my legs that are slowly healing up -- Daisy asked me last night what the wounds on my legs were, and I told her it was the fly bites from that day.

Daisy, undeterred by the heat and the flies (two things that would normally bother her) was gung-ho about the hiking. This was a part of the trip that she'd looked forward to, and she actually wanted to go up into the wilderness and hike a lot. Meanwhile, I was sleep-deprived, my back was killing me from two nights in a hard hotel bed, and I was neither dressed for the occasion nor had my hiking shoes on.

"Let's just start walking," Daisy said. "We'll eventually run into them as they're on the way back down."

Um, maybe, if they took the same trail we were taking. Otherwise probably not.

The hiking trail started at the parking lot, went over a little wooden bridge over a rushing stream (you can see the stream in the picture above) and forked off left and right once you started ascending the hill. We chose the right path, and began walking. I learned very quickly that these trails were trails made for hikers, as in people with good shoes/boots, walking sticks, and actual energy. Oh, and people who didn't mind hiking up a mountain incline. As such, we got about 200 yards up the trail, with nature all around us, and was already getting very tired. It was hot, it was muggy. I was having trouble breathing because of that and because I'm fat. We passed (and let pass us) a lot of people on the trail who seemed really into hiking and who were properly dressed for it, and I felt like a touristy idiot in the wilderness.

I told Daisy that while I loved her, I wasn't feelin' it and I just did not have the energy to go all the way up this mountain looking for the family; they could find us and deal with it. I wasn't trying to be cruel or trying to rain on the parade there, but after constantly running the two previous days, barely eating, barely sleeping (on that miserable bed, at that), with energy drinks, but no coffee fueling me, I was rapidly reaching exhaustion, and I wanted my vacation to feel like a vacation, not a chore or a slog. What could've been a fun nature hike had it been 20 degrees cooler with no biting flies had turned into what felt like a death march. 

...I feel like I'm being slightly dramatic here, so I'll stop. 

We came to a break in the trail, and to the right of us was a large, beautiful mountain pond. There was a well-worn path leading down from the trail to the pond, which had a long walking bridge across it. 




The picture here does not do the beauty justice -- this was a breathtakingly gorgeous place. I took relatively few pictures on this trip since Daisy has a much better camera and a much better photographic eye than I do. This was the view about halfway across the walking bridge, which was built on top of a man-made dam/aqueduct system to control the flow of the stream below. Daisy got a better pic of the bridge and aqueduct system itself, but I'm not posting it here because the kids are in it. Speaking of which...

As we were on the bridge taking in nature, we heard our names being yelled from far away up the trail, by a booming voice that was unmistakably our Canadian brother-in-law. I looked up, but couldn't see any of them -- when I say it's in nature, it was nature, and the tree cover was thick. Also, if you hadn't noticed from all of the posts I've written about getting an eye exam and all of my new glasses, my eyes suck and 40-50 yards away, people are blurry blobs. I saw the Denverites first, followed closely behind by the Canadians, coming down the people bridge from the same direction we'd come -- so clearly they weren't that far up the trail ahead of us.

Our youngest niece (read: my shadow) ran to the front of the pack of them, and as soon as I saw her, I crouched down and grinned, with my arms open wide. The look on her face as she realized it was me and came running to my open arms as fast as she could is a memory I will cherish for the rest of my life. It was so sweet and precious that I could have cried.

As an aside, Daisy thinks her Canadian sister has baby fever again -- throughout most of the trip, she was joined at the hip or lap by her older sister's youngest son -- her nephew and ours -- and took him everywhere with her. I'm sure her older sister didn't mind as it was one less child to keep track of, but the Canadian sister seemed to bond with that child almost in the same way I immediately bonded with my shadow niece. 

Later I would ask Daisy, "Can we take [niece] home with us? I mean, they can always make another one, they don't need this one that badly."

She didn't find it as funny as I did.

It was as much of a joke as it was the truth, on a few levels. Daisy's Canadian sister, when I first met her, only had three children. She now has five, with my shadow being the youngest. Daisy's Denver sister only had one child when I first met her, and was pregnant with her second. She now has four total, and the one she was pregnant with when I met her is now eight years old. Both families, as you could imagine most religious families do, went forth and multiplied.

Anyway.

Once she had found me, my shadow didn't leave my side. Her hand permanently attached itself to mine, and she wanted once more to show me everything she could again. That little girl is full of wonder and curiosity; she is such a good kid. I can promise you I was far more rambunctious and far more of a troublemaker when I was her age, though I did tend to idolize my aunts and uncles a fair amount. 

As mentioned before, she also was a big fan of my oldest nephew on the Denverites' side as well, and  from what I was told later, apparently always wanted to be around him when I wasn't around, too. No preteen boy wants a little kid stuck to them at all times, though. With age comes wisdom, and I have a feeling as he gets older he'll appreciate the kid more. He was a poor substitute for Uncle Brandon, though, from all indications. Daisy got one of the cutest photos I've ever seen of us walking back down the trail, with me holding my shadow's right hand and said oldest nephew holding her left hand. I won't post that here for privacy reasons, but yeah, that happened and it was cute.

Once we got back to the landing area, the kids took off their shoes (and in some cases, rolled up their pant legs) and cooled off in the rapidly rushing stream at the base of the hill, splashing around and being kids. It was very sweet and peaceful to watch, even though I was getting eaten alive at the time by the biting flies, which seemed to come in swarms around the flowing water. The temperature for the day was beginning to climb, and the sun did us no favors in that department. I did not have to (yet) put on sunscreen, though I likely should have. 

The kids played for an hour or so while the adults rested, relaxed, and talked a bit. The Denverites had to head back home after we were done at the Canyon; my oldest nephew had a swim meet the next day (or something like that, truth be told I didn't pay that close attention) and at that point they'd been camping for almost two straight weeks -- the week before they met up with the rest of the family, they'd been camping somewhere else, apparently. They were tired, and as our brother-in-law had already returned to Denver the day before after the lake/boating excursion, they wanted to return home too. Mind you, the parents had already left for home that morning, and with the Denverites leaving, it would just be us and the Canadians left.

We said our goodbyes and helped them get loaded into their SUV -- it was a 5-6 hour drive, if not a little longer, back down to the Denver area from Spearfish Canyon, meaning they had the least amount of travel to get home compared to the rest of us, but that's no short trip either. It reminded me just how far from home we really were -- it's a 10-ish hour drive to Denver from Omaha; Daisy and I have made the trip out there and back together once. It's only about eight hours for us to get to the Black Hills from Omaha -- give or take.

"So here's our plan," the Canadian brother-in-law said, once the Denverites had left. "there's a little restaurant up in Spearfish that we were going to go to, and my grandparents wanted to meet up with us while we were here, so we're going to try to do some sort of picnic thing with them, then I guess dinner back at the campground."

It was something along those lines, I can't really remember all of the details now. But, we agreed to follow them to the point where we'd meet his grandparents and then follow them to this restaurant/picnic area or what have you. The drive would take us up into Spearfish proper, which was further north into the hills and mountains than we'd been before -- Daisy and I had never really left Deadwood when we were there in 2019, aside from going to/from Rapid City and Mount Rushmore, so we'd already seen a much larger chunk of the area than we'd initially expected to. So, the Canadians piled into their people-hauler and we followed them back down out of the canyon, and then on the road up to Spearfish. We let them lead the way, keeping them in sight of us at all times -- they knew where they were going and we did not. 

On the road to Spearfish, I noticed that the Corvettes around us were, ahem, multiplying. I am unsure if Daisy noticed that or not, but it was pretty hard to miss and we'd been talking about the Corvette rally that was apparently going on somewhere while we were out there, but it was an ancillary conversation most of the time -- I said I must've seen 500 Corvettes while we were there, and she found that to be a grossly exaggerated number:

 "I doubt we've even seen 100," she said. 

"No," I replied, "trust me, we've seen far more than that. We've probably seen 100 today alone."

This also doesn't count all of them that I saw screaming down the highways from the vantage point of our hotel balcony.

So, after some driving, we pulled into Spearfish and followed the behemoth van to what appeared to be a large, residential park area. Trying to get into the park area, we were greeted by a bunch of cops and traffic cops who had blocked off the street and were directing folks to different areas for parking, for...something. Daisy turned around where we could and we parallel-parked on the street about half a mile from where the cops were directing traffic. 

"...what the fuck?" I asked aloud, to no one in particular. 

The Canadians had turned around as well and came back up the hill. They stopped at our car and lowered the window.

"So apparently there's some sort of festival at the park today, and we can't get in there. I'm gonna follow my grandparents as they know of a campground area up here with picnic tables where we can get out and eat and enjoy the weather."

My first thought was if that was the overall plan, why didn't we just go back to the actual campground? I'm not judging anyone, mind you, but logic is a thing. But, apparently, his grandparents lived in Belle Fourche, which is actually quite a bit north of Spearfish proper and would likely double or triple their driving time to-and-fro if they'd gone down to the campground in Deadwood, so I didn't say anything.

As an aside, the festival that was going on? Yeah, you probably guessed it, it was the Black Hills Corvette Classic, and Friday was their day in Spearfish for their big final meet-up and, well, festival.

"So we're following them, and you can follow us, because I don't exactly know where we're going either."

And with that, we were off. We found a parking area off a residential side street to turn around in, and then were headed back down the road again, where our journey took an unexpected turn as we made a turn that...took us right back up Spearfish Canyon, where we'd just left nary an hour before. 

"You're kidding, right?" I asked Daisy as we continued to follow them. "I'm glad our car at least gets good gas mileage." We'd probably driven it 60-70 miles that day already. 

We continued to drive up the canyon for miles upon miles, past the section with the hiking area and the pond, and continued upward for some time until, eventually, there was a pull-off public campground section on the side of the road at the base of a mountain. The grandparents pulled off, the Canadians pulled off, and we followed. It took us through thick foliage about 100 feet or so up a dirt/gravel road set back from the main road, and in it were open-stall-like parking spots with public grills and picnic tables attached to each area. At the far end of the picnic area there was a small brick building with indoor bathrooms. We were the only folks there. 

The area was immaculately clean -- the Hills has a basic policy of "you take out what you take in" when it comes to campsites, meaning you don't just throw your trash around and there are no trash cans; you're expected to take all of it back out with you when you're done camping and picnicking. Behind the campground was a trail with park benches on it at each end and an informational plaque about the area. The trail butted up against a roaring, rushing stream that came down from the mountains. It was incredibly beautiful, and I snapped these pictures of it, which (again) don't really do the place justice:






We settled in with the Canadians and got to meet our brother-in-law's grandparents, who were also...shall we say...very set in their ways and in their religion, to the point where it was very evident that the grandfather saw women as, well, not really worth his time (he completely ignored Daisy and walked away when she tried to talk to him and get to know him, but spent a good 10 minutes asking me about where I was from, what I did for a living, etc). The grandmother was mostly very quiet and kept her head down, keeping to herself until she was spoken to. She seemed to be a very kind, sweet old lady though. 

When the kids were done eating, they ventured down the trail/path mentioned above, the one with the plaque on it overlooking the rushing stream, to climb down into the water again and get their feet wet.

For those of you who are curious, this is the informational plaque:





You can click that to zoom in on it, if you're interested enough. I assume you are, if you've read this far.

Anyway. 

Finally able to get a moment's peace away from everyone and everything, I just sat down on the park bench on the far end of the trail -- far enough away to where I couldn't hear the kids or Daisy and her sister talking, but not too far -- and I just...relaxed. I looked up at the mountain, I let the sun hit my face, and I loosened up all my muscles. It was almost a meditation experience. For the first time in weeks I felt really at peace, at one with nature, at one with myself and who I was and who I was trying to be, and I tried to let the stress melt off me as much as I could:




It felt so good to just sink into that bench, breathe in that mountain air, and just chill for a bit.

I also think this is one of the best photos I've taken of myself in many months. All I did was hold up the phone while I was having my little moment of zen and snapped the photo.

Anyway, I digress. Back to the story.

One of the things you'll likely know if you've spent any real amount of time in the Hills is that the weather can change at the drop of a hat, and drenching rains/thunderstorms can roll in off the mountains at pretty much any time. I don't know if the same is true in the winter as I've never been up there in the winter, but it's definitely true in the spring and summer. Daisy and I narrowly missed getting caught in a downpour when we were up there in 2019, and this time around, about an hour after we'd been at the picnic area above, we noticed it getting dark...and quickly, at that -- in the middle of the day. It began thundering. The family began packing everything up and getting it loaded back into the van, and we got our own stuff together to get it ready to head out.

We were all splitting off a bit at this point -- the grandparents were going back home, and we were following the Canadians back down the mountain to the campground, with a stop for some groceries first. That was fine with us -- the parents had asked us to pick up a few bags of Old Dutch dill pickle potato chips for them (we can't get the Old Dutch stuff in Omaha) on the way home, so...kill two birds with one stone, I guess.

Our drive in what, at times, was a pretty intense rainstorm took us out of Spearfish Canyon a different way than we'd come in -- we basically went up, and then down through another set of mountains, through more winding roads filled with Corvettes, until we came to a little souvenir shop/trading post place on what appeared to be the Wyoming border, based on the road signs -- where Daisy was finally able to get some bottled water to drink. After that we followed them in the van back down to civilization (in the rain), at which point our phones finally started working again (as we both got a flurry of text message and camera notifications. We found that we weren't going back into Deadwood proper, but into its larger sister town of Lead, which was a few miles away.

Lead (pronounced "leed," not "led" as in Zeppelin) is a more modern, updated, small town with what appeared to be a much larger population and not as much of a tendency to focus on the historical aspects of the area. It was almost like one of the smaller towns that act as suburbs of Omaha, but are still counted in the Omaha metropolitan area. Lead had stores, gas stations, schools, libraries, etc -- and to be fair, it did still have a decent downtown shopfront area as well, but most small towns out here in the midwest/west do. Lead has history of its own -- apparently at one point in time it was home to the largest gold mine in the country, or something -- but we didn't get to see much of that stuff while driving through it.

The Canadians pulled into another Lynn's Dakotamart and we followed them in -- at first accidentally going into the Ace Hardware store next door for a few minutes -- where we found that the reason they were stopping for groceries was so that they could take stuff back to the campground to cook us a big dinner.

"That's really not necessary," I told my brother-in-law. "We have so much food at the hotel; you don't have to worry about us -- take care of yourselves and the kids."

"We have to pick up stuff for us anyway," he replied, "so it's not a big deal just to pick up a little extra and cook for you and [Daisy] too. It's really no big deal."

I wasn't a huge fan of this idea -- not that I didn't trust their cooking (I do), but I don't like putting people out. I don't like making them feel like it's their responsibility to feed us when they have seven mouths to feed on their own, and we are perfectly capable of making sure we get by. Still, this is a family tradition for us with the Canadians in a weird sense -- whenever we see them, or spend time with them, they want to cook for us. When we helped them clean up, repaint, and move all of their stuff to storage units and the like when they had sold their house and were pulling up stakes in Nebraska to move to Vancouver (they now live in a little town in Alberta), not only did I get a free pickup truck out of the deal but it was very important to them that they cook dinner for us to show their love and their thanks. In a sense, doing that is part of their love language. Daisy and I know this and accept it, but that doesn't mean it always sits right with us. Back then it was sort of a given, not that I took it for granted but we knew it was coming, but now? They're in a mobile home on a campsite in the middle of nowhere in South Dakota -- I didn't want me and Daisy to be any unnecessary burden or strain on them nor did I want them to spend money on us. 

I went back to Daisy and told her their plan, and after a few discussions between us and them, we reluctantly relented -- we knew it was important to them, and because we'd gotten back so late from Mount Rushmore the day prior, they hadn't been able to cook for us then either, meaning they doubly wanted to do it this time.

I'll step back here for a moment and note that the Canadians know we have special dietary restrictions -- what with me being vegetarian and diabetic, and Daisy being vegan -- so finding something we could eat and making the effort to do so, while keeping our foods and utensils free of animal product contamination was no easy task. South Dakota isn't particularly kind to vegetarians and vegans -- it's full of the type of people who don't think a meal can possibly be a meal if some sort of meat isn't involved, and from what I've seen, it's not that they don't like people like me and Daisy, it's that they don't even acknowledge or realize (in most cases) that we actually exist. I've followed Wall Drug on Facebook for years, and in the pre-Covid times they used to post their weekly lunch menu for the cafe. Never, and I mean never, was there anything even remotely vegan or vegetarian featured on said menu, with the exception of, say, "tomato soup and grilled cheese day" or what have you. That's about as close as anyone was ever gonna get up there, really. Part of it I think is the staunchly conservative culture up there and how everyone is really set in their ways, but...

Here's the part where I inform all of you that South Dakota now has fully legal weed, just like Colorado and California and a lot of other states do now, as of July 1:




Hot damn, South Dakota -- leaping into the 21st century and living dangerously.

I will also mention that nobody is advertising this anywhere, anyhow up there. At all. Nowhere. There are less than ten dispensaries in the state, and at least two of them are on tribal land. Now, I would imagine that's partially because it was just finalized-by-law-legalized this month, but I mean c'mon man. Think ahead. There were also no news reports or anything that were like "oh by the way, don't forget weed is legal now, smoke up Johnny" or anything like that. 

Anyway, if I don't stop going into these multiple digressions, I'm never going to finish this story.

So we settled on grilled vegetables -- kebabs, potatoes, etc. Stuff that would be good for me and Daisy to eat, that wouldn't make us sick or get contaminated, and something that would fill us up. Also, vegetables are cheap -- when you live out here, vegetables are always cheap. 

We paid for our respective groceries (I was able to find several new flavors of Monster I'd never seen before, which was neat, and Daisy got us some chips as well as the chips for the parents) and made our way out to the parking lot. By this time it was Friday rush hour in Lead, and there was a crazy amount of traffic. There was also (conveniently) road construction on the street we were trying to get back out onto. 

Brother-in-law rolled down the window of the van. "Traffic is awful and backed up for miles, don't know what's going on. Follow us though, I think I can get us around it, but it'll take some hinkery-jinkery."

As soon as he rolled the window back up and we were able to put ours back up, I turned to the wife and whisper-screamed "Hinkery-jinkery! HINKERY-JINKERY!" we were both tired and sleep deprived and thought this was the funniest turn of phrase to ever cross our ears.

They led us across a few streets into an industrial area, then through that into a residential area where the streets down the side of the mountain face were switchback-style. Throughout the harrowing journey through narrowing streets, I began to sing a song...

"You take a left turn, we'll take a left turn, hinkery-jinkery dooooo....put 'em together and what do you get? Hinkery-jinkery doo!"

Soon, Daisy joined in, and as we continued to sing, we got to what looked like Lead's main street area,  found that it was mostly deserted and we had a clean shot out of town back to Deadwood. 

I'm going to pause here again to note that while writing his post, I stopped to go downstairs and make a sandwich/eat some string cheese in order to take my second Metformin of the day, and while I was doing so, I was quietly singing this song. I would not be surprised if, upon waking up for the day tomorrow, Daisy asks me something along the lines of "were you downstairs at 4am singing the hinkery-jinkery song?" and I'll have to reply that yes, yes I was.

Once we were on the road back to Deadwood everything was fine. We had spotty cell signal, we knew (roughly) where we were going, and we also knew how to get back to the campground. However, instead of turning into the campground lot when we approached it, the van continued onward up the road...to the tent stand where the kids had gotten all of their custom-made tie-dye shirts. They hadn't forgotten about me, I thought. They wanted me to get my shirt. 

This was, exactly, the case. Daisy's sister got out of the van as she wanted to check the place out a little more closely and see if she could get a new pair of sunglasses, and our brother-in-law asked us to bring her back down to the campground when were were done. The campground was literally 1/4 mile away, so it's not like that was a big deal or anything. As we were all getting out to go inside the tent mall, it began raining...and raining pretty heavily. It appears that the storm we'd outrun in the canyon and higher-elevation hills had finally caught up with us back in Deadwood...or it was another, completely different storm system, because Black Hills weather. 

The inside of the tent was a rundown, little dumpy place, filled with folding tables stacked high with folded shirts. The tie-dyes were against the back wall -- it was one of those places where you could pick a blank shirt, pick the decal you wanted printed on it, and they'd do it right there for you onsite. I've never seen those sorts of shops anywhere outside beach towns.

Well...none of the tie-dyes were larger than 2x. Tie-dyed shirts are notoriously hard to shop for because in order to hold the dyes and prevent bleeding and fading, they're usually made of a special type of really heavy cotton, and those shirts are hard to find in fat-guy sizes of 4x and 5x. Add to this that said shirts usually shrink badly upon their first wash and generally continue to shrink just a little more with each subsequent wash, so I always try to get at least one size up from my normal size when I buy a tie-dye. I was saddened and a bit frustrated before I saw a table full of trashy motorcycle shirts -- they were shirts that had already been printed up for the upcoming motorcycle rally in Sturgis, and they had a large chunk of them in multiple fat-guy sizes...all the way up to 5x. So....




...when in Rome, right?

The shirt was only sixteen dollars -- I expected it to be almost twice that. If I would've known that I would've looked around for a few others in varying designs, but I was also tired and anxious and the sister wives were waiting on me, so...

Satisfied with something on my list being checked off for this trip, we returned to the campground while the rain was still coming down pretty steadily, making the ground soggy and muddy. On the outside of the camper, our brother-in-law had put up the canopy, and had tied/hung two big weatherproof tarps off the outside edge -- essentially making us a large tent that kept the weather out and kept us inside warm and dry. I was once more reunited with my shadow, who was thrilled I was there and who sat with me for over an hour showing me games on her little mini-tablet, and getting me to play them with her. It was so cute.

Eventually, the rain rolled off and the sun came back out -- full-force, at that -- as if nothing had happened. About half an hour later, one of the campground "neighbors" stopped by and mentioned that since the rain had now stopped, they were reopening the swimming pool. Yes, in addition to everything else, the campground had an in-ground swimming pool on the far end of the camp, next to "The Chalet" where the Denverites had stayed while they were there. The kids wanted to go swimming before dinner, so all of them changed into their swimsuits, and their mother and Daisy (who had brought her swimsuit as well) joined them. I switched out my glasses for my sunglasses, and as I didn't want to get sunscreen all over myself as the sun would be going down in an hour or so, I put a towel around my uncovered head and face like a babushka (to protect from the sun) and leaned back to relax in the deck chairs at the pool while everyone else swam. 

I quietly took it all in -- this was a moment trapped in time, a fleeting moment where my wife, her sister, and all of her sister's kids were swimming together in the pool, playing Marco Polo, being kids. Being family. This was likely an experience none of us would ever really be able to have again -- kids grow up and lose interest in things, adults get older and interact with the kids less -- this was an innocent time, a peaceful time, in the tumultuous world around us when everyone could just be who they were and be together. There was nothing on the outside world intruding on this time -- no stress, no worries about travel or bills or other responsibilities -- just the family and the pool.

That was, until another family with a bunch of obnoxious kids came up to the pool area -- and the Canadian kids started fighting with one another about something (I don't know what, I wasn't paying attention) and Daisy's sister told them to get out of the pool, that they were done. That pretty much wrapped up all of the pool time for the night, so we gathered up our stuff and went back to the camper, where dinner was being made and gotten ready.

The kids were eating steak and vegetables and potatoes, pretty standard stuff. Daisy and I had grilled vegetable kebabs and baked potatoes (I think they said they were microwaved, not grilled, but it didn't matter because they were good) and I finally felt a little life return to my body. I had consumed almost nothing the entire day except three energy drinks -- yes, three -- a bottle of diet Mountain Dew, and a few handfuls of potato chips in the car. I was running on fumes and my normally highly-regulated diabetic diet was out the window for most of the trip, given the vegan hot dogs and s'mores and everything else the night before too. 

So, we ate -- my shadow at the picnic table with us of course -- and the kids ate, and as they finished they went in small groups over to the showers at the lodge to get cleaned up before bed. Their oldest son (the one who's allergic to everything), who Daisy has always felt a sort of kinship with, was so ashamed he'd gotten in trouble in front of us at the pool that he didn't want to come out and say good night or goodbye to us, and he hid in his bunk. My shadow so desperately wanted to show me her own bunk inside the camper (despite the fact that I'd already seen it) but she couldn't because her brother was in there already and was upset. 

As the kids showered in groups after dinner, our brother-in-law showed me the ins-and-outs of the camper's features on the outside -- such as how they drained the sewage and washed out the system, and the hookups for power and water and other things. The camper is not new; it's a 2003 model, so he said -- so it doesn't have a ton of bells and whistles, but it does have a lot of interesting things, including the retractable canopy and the like. Throughout the entire trip he spent a good chunk of time trying to get me interested in the "van life" as they called it, being able to take your home with you wherever you go, and pushing on me really hard (for him) that it's something that the wife and I could and should be doing too, especially if our jobs can be done 100% remotely as long as there's internet access. I have to admit that it's something I'm only partially interested in at best, and percentage-wise it would be a very small percentage -- but I do envy some aspects of it. Daisy and I are very different people than the Canadians. I not only need but require a lot of personal space and quiet time that living in a cramped RV for long stretches of time -- even if it were a large RV -- just wouldn't provide. I need strong, stable internet. I need my cats. I need central air in the summer and a strong furnace in the winter. I can't have any of those things in an RV without it being a $200,000 RV that's tour-bus-sized...which negates the point.

Once the kids had all showered, had said their goodnights, and had gotten into their beds in the camper, it was (finally) just us adults left. It was sort of sad to know that our trip was ending. Well, that our family time was ending, at least -- our trip wasn't over yet, as we still had to get back home. The Canadians were pulling up stakes the next day as well and was starting to journey east to Indiana, which was their primary destination for the trip -- our brother-in-law, who is a pastor, had a religious conference of some sort he was going to. He told me/us what it was at some point, but as it was all about the Jesus the information just went in one atheist ear and out the other with me. Because they're Evangelical, I've tried very hard not to ask the Canadians questions about their religion or why they are so passionate about it, because were I to do so, it would create a lot of drama, as well as probably some animosity and strife between our families, and there's a good chance we'd never see our nieces and nephews again because they wouldn't be allowed to be around us.

The Canadians know that Daisy really isn't religious and is more "spiritual" -- she would say that she can see truth in all religions and appreciate them for what they are -- and I've not made it a secret that I'm an atheist, though I've never come out and said it to them one-on-one. The only time they've ever talked about religion with me is when they once gave me a Bible, when they were leaving for Canada, as a way to thank me for helping them get their stuff packed and moved. At the time, my brother-in-law said something to me to the affect of "we know you're not really into this sort of thing, but you understand we had to try." They personalized it with a message inside the cover for me and Daisy. Daisy was slightly offended by this, but I wasn't at all -- to them, to their religion, this is the greatest showing of love that they could possibly give us -- this is their way, this is their truth. I may not agree with it but I 100% see the love in that action. Love is stronger than words in a book. 

We talked about various things in the night hours, once the kids were in bed. I brought up the fact that their second oldest daughter has a very clearly British accent in her tone and inflection most of the time, which made them laugh -- she picked it up from the Harry Potter movies when she was younger and it never really went away, and she has an African instructor of some sort at her church school who was taught British English and has the accent as well, so it sort of stuck -- at this point she's not even doing it on purpose anymore, it's just how she talks. 

As an aside, I did the same thing in reverse with my West Virginia accent, as a teenager and into my adult years in college -- I worked very hard to remove it from my inflections and speech patterns for many years, to the point where eventually I was able to eliminate it completely as second nature. I will still slip into it at times when I'm back home or if I'm completely exhausted, and Daisy finds it endlessly amusing when I do. You can take the boy out of West Virginia, but you can't entirely take the West Virginia out of the boy, I guess.

Eventually the topic of conversation came to the Covid pandemic and vaccinations, and this is where it got interesting. None of the Canadians are vaccinated. At all. We knew this beforehand, but bringing this up in conversation is something I knew we'd eventually discuss on our trip.

"We're not anti-vaxxers or anything," our brother-in-law said. "But we're not completely convinced the vaccines have had enough testing or research on them, and then there's [oldest son, who's allergic to everything] to worry about."

Daisy's sister has said in the past (I believe it was last Christmas, via the family phone call) that we were basically making ourselves guinea pigs for the vaccine when we planned to get it and eventually got it, because we were taking a gamble on something untested that we had no idea what it would do to our bodies.

Make no mistake on this, folks -- science knows what it will do to our bodies. Scientists are smarter than us. Scientists, especially vaccine scientists, understand and know that we're not going to die from it, it's not going to change our DNA, it's not going to make us into Jekyll-and-Hyde monsters -- it's going to save lives and prevent hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of sicknesses and deaths. Trust the science of it. You don't have to understand it to trust it and believe it. 




The Canadians' lack of vaccinations concerned us greatly, but there was nothing we could do about it. The Delta variant is not fucking around, and it's worse and apparently hospitalizing/killing people in way larger numbers (adjusted numbers for clarity vs. vaccinated and unvaccinated folks) compared to the original. Over 90% of active Covid infections in the US now are from the Delta variant.

They went on to explain that their oldest, allergic-to-everything son could be killed by the vaccine because they just aren't sure what's in it or what he'd be allergic to in it. "Is it worth getting the vaccine if it ends up killing my son?" Daisy's sister asked.

Well, no, but...what's stopping y'all from getting it? Also, your son isn't old enough to get it yet anyway. Create your own little herd immunity clan and protect him (and the other younger kids) from it by protecting yourselves. 

I didn't say this; I wanted to say it, but it's not my place. Truth be told, I don't know what virus spread is like in Alberta where they live, nor do I know how easy/difficult it is to get the vaccine up there or what it entails. Four of their five children are under 12, which I think is the cutoff age where anyone younger can't get it yet, but if I were a parent of five children during a pandemic, regardless of apprehensions I had about the vaccine, I would absolutely get it just to ensure I had a much stronger chance of being able to stick around and survive for my kids. 

Not to mention that, y'know, you're driving through a lot of states and stopping at a lot of places where there are a lot of people, and the US doesn't exactly have the best track record of everyone being immunized either (I've read conflicting reports, but most say something like 70% have at least one dose, which isn't that great -- at the six-month point we should be closer to 90% fully vaxxed). I take everything with a grain of salt, but I guarantee you over the three months that I've now been fully vaccinated, I have been around enough people and in enough situations to where I would've been infected by an infected person at some point were I not vaccinated. It's almost 100% certain I would have, and I guarantee Daisy would have too. There's just so many people not getting the shots. 

Anyway.

The conversation quieted down after that and we said our goodnights and goodbyes. They'd very likely be gone by the morning when we got up and pulled out of town to head back to Omaha anyway, so we knew this would be the last time we'd see them before they rolled back our way through Omaha at the beginning of August on their way home. Daisy, in the time since we've returned home, plotted out the days they'd be in and took at least one day of PTO to spend with them while they were here. 

We got back in the car and drove once more down the pitch black roads back to Sturgis and to the hotel, through the bighorn sheep crossing areas where I once more chanted my mantra of "no sheep, no sheep, no sheep" as a way to ward them off. Once back at the hotel, we both showered and I actually got some real food (and my second set of pills) in me. Daisy went to bed, and I decompressed a bit out on the balcony in the cool, fresh night air with my phone -- full 5G signal, baby -- before later joining her in bed. 

The adventuring of our vacation had ended. Family time was over. Now for the drive back home...



Saturday, July 17: 
Homeward bound. 

We were up and mobile pretty early on Saturday morning, as we had nothing else keeping us in South Dakota at that point -- we were the last to arrive, and the last to leave. We also had a set itinerary for Saturday for our travels:

1. gas and Blaze Pizza in Rapid City
2. Wall Drug
3. Home by dark.

We were able to stick to this plan pretty closely for the most part. 

I will tell you that my least favorite part of any trip is the unloading of the car (from the car to the hotel room) and the re-loading of that stuff all back into the car when we're leaving a hotel. It always seems like we tend to bring ten times the amount of shit we actually need on any given trip, and I'm always looking to find a way to "cut weight," so speak, on a return trip. Deodorant stick is 3/4 gone? Toss it, no need to bring it back home. Three PowerAdes left? Shit, better drink those, it's less to carry -- etc. I hate the unloading and reloading with every fiber of my being, and I hate it more when the hotel doesn't have the luggage-mover dolly things, so everything we carry must be physically carried. 

I was not feeling very well on Saturday morning. My stomach was out of sorts and more than anything else, I just felt weak. I'd chalk it up to low blood sugar or something, but I was fine there. Once we were on the road, it slowly got a little better. We stopped and got gas in Rapid City and made our way to the local Blaze Pizza down the street (in the same plaza) to get food on our stomachs before the main drag of the trip.

For those of you unfamiliar with Blaze Pizza, imagine a Subway or a Chipotle, but with pizza -- you go in there, pick what you want, they make -- via assembly line -- and oven-fire the pizza in front of you, and then you eat it fresh out of the oven. You can either make your own or go with one of their menu pizzas, and add/remove whatever you want to/from it. We like the place because it is very similar to a chain we used to eat at all the time called Uncle Maddio's, which disappeared from Omaha in probably 2017 or so. We also like it because they have vegan cheeses and because Daisy confirmed via a lot of research that their crusts are vegan, as well as their sauces and the like. I don't have problems eating cheese or eggs as a vegetarian, I'm just meat-free, so as long as it doesn't have any dead animals in it, I'm good to go as well. 

This particular Blaze Pizza trip wasn't that memorable for me, honestly. I hadn't been feeling well (as mentioned) and I got some pizza that was really garlicky and I don't even remember what it was, to be honest with you. It was good, but it wasn't something that I need to order again the next time we're there. I also got an order of their cheese bread, because it was new and looked good -- and it was, but meh, I was mostly underwhelmed by a lot of it this time around because I was exhausted and not feeling well. I saved about half of it and brought it all home. Daisy made her own pizza and put tons of olives and peppers and artichokes and all sorts of other stuff on it -- she also took about half of it with her (she would later finish it in the car during our drive). 

The drive itself was long. I don't know why it seems like it takes so much longer to get home from South Dakota than it does to get there. Perhaps it's because this time around we were making the trip in daylight and there was more traffic on the road, including accidents -- we passed two nasty wrecks on the way up to Rapid City from Sturgis -- or perhaps it's just because we were both tired of being out and about and just wanted to be home. Regardless, the trip seemed so. much. longer this time around than it did driving up there in the nighttime hours three days prior. 

We came up on the town of Wall, and Wall Drug, by probably 11:30. Now, the last time we went to Wall Drug, it was early evening in late May before Memorial Day, on a weekday. There were people there but it wasn't awful. This time it was mid-summer, in July, on a beautiful Saturday morning in peak tourist season. This translated to holy Jesus, people everywhere, let's park a quarter mile from the complex. We were lucky, actually, that we got there when we did and were able to park so close -- when we exited the building an hour later there was zero parking left in the lot.

I will forever say that Wall Drug is an experience. For some, it is a state of mind. It is the most South Dakota thing about South Dakota, in my opinion. If you have no concept of what Wall Drug is and/or have never been there, I strongly encourage you to read up on its history and everything it has to offer. Yes, it is a sort of tourist-trappy place, but it is a vast complex filled with shops and a giant cafe/restaurant, a museum, outdoor sculptures and statues, and for people who love collectibles and kitsch, it is a delightful experience.

Daisy is not a fan of Wall Drug. She indulges me in my love of the place, and goes along for the ride, but if there's a personal hell for Daisy, it's Wall Drug on a Saturday morning in the peak of tourist season in the Black Hills. 

Why do I like Wall Drug so much? Well, for one, I love tourist trap places, and I love gift shops/souvenir shops. Nearly everywhere we go on vacations or trips, I always make sure to bring home some sort of souvenir -- usually t-shirts, coffee mugs, keychains, stuff of that nature. I budget for it when we travel (it's the primary reason I cleared off so much space on my credit cards before we left Omaha). When I wear the shirts or use the mugs/keychains/what-have-you, I have a tangible reminder of the memories and experiences I've had on those trips -- where I was and what I was doing when I got those items. One of my biggest regrets about our trip to New Orleans (five years ago this week, actually) is that I didn't bring home more souvenirs from the city. 

Again, as South Dakota has a pull on me, I am deeply fascinated and amused by its kitschy souvenirs and shirts. When we were there in 2019, I bought a mug (which is so big that I end up just using it for soup), a Mount Rushmore wolf shirt (don't you judge me) and one of the softest, most comfortable t-shirts I've ever owned -- a purple soft cotton shirt that says "South Dakota, Est. 1889" with the backdrop of a mountain range on it. That shirt I've worn so much because it's so comfortable, to the point where it's starting to wear out. I told Daisy that my primary focus this time around was to get several more of them, if I could find them.

I could not. 

I searched every shop in Wall Drug from top to bottom, and while I found other shirts by the same company, none of them were in similar designs or colors and, more importantly, none of them were in my size. Some of the little shops had stuff I was mildly interested in, but wasn't going to pay tourist prices for (I rather liked some of the mugs and knives and other little things, but eh). I was frustrated and sad, and Daisy needed to use the bathroom, so I leaned against a wall amongst the throngs of people clogging up everywhere they could and sighed.

Scanning the room for anything interesting, the opposite wall caught my eye. Against it, in stacks, were woven blankets of multiple colors. Woven as in, looked western, looked native-made, looked like horse blankets with tassels and the like. I walked over to look at them. They were thick, heavy, and sturdy -- some in red and yellow, some in blue and white, green and white, yellow and brown, etc. They were the type of blanket you'd pay $50 or more for in some trendy shop. Wall Drug, decidedly not a trendy shop, had them for $11.99 each. I immediately picked up one of the blue and white ones and one of the green and white ones -- the two best color choices, in my opinion -- and bought them. 

In hindsight, I should've purchased probably five or six more for Christmas presents for family, because they're gorgeous and were an amazing deal. I decided to keep one for us and give the other to the parents -- who aren't really the type of people to go to tourist shops to look for such things. I didn't know which one I'd choose to keep and which one I'd choose to give to them -- I liked both the blue and the green equally.

Daisy returned from the bathroom, saw the big bag I had, and rolled her eyes, asking what I'd bought. When I showed her and explained to her my reasoning, she mostly understood. 

"Whichever one you keep will be a very pretty blanket for the back of the couch," she said, dryly. 

We ventured outside (something we didn't get to do on our last trip there) and went into the museums and open statue/sculpture area, where there are various different photo op sorts of things, like a jackalope statue, a rabbit statue, a full-size stuffed/mounted bison, etc. 





...As you can see.

In the building with the museum, there was also a (closed) arcade, and to the side of that, one last souvenir shop. In it, aside from a T-Rex skull cast...




...I was able to find two shirts, of questionable taste and morality:





I will state, for the record, that I have zero idea what message the buffalo shirt is attempting to convey.

In the time since we've returned from the trip, I have asked multiple people of multiple races and ethnic backgrounds to interpret what they believed the creators' intention was to be for that artwork, and I have yet to receive a satisfying answer to that question. It is:

1. A buffalo
2. Wearing aviators and headphones
3. With dreads and beads in the dreads
4. In Rastafarian colors. 

Like, my only real thoughts on it are "well, South Dakota did just legalize the weeds across the board this month" but other than that...yeah, I got nothin'. It seems to be culturally appropriating at least three different things at once, and it is so bizarre I couldn't not purchase it. 

The sasquatch shirt I at least understand. 

As an aside, Daisy and I saw a lot of sasquatch merchandise/souvenirs when we were up there this time around, at various places like Wall Drug, but also in gas stations and truckstops -- I didn't particularly think much of it until I started seeing it almost everywhere we went. I figured that they'd chosen the sasquatch as a mascot of some sort, similar to the Jackalope, and didn't think much else about it.

Upon returning home, I did a little research, and apparently there are a lot of bigfoot sightings in the Black Hills -- as in, it's really common -- but it's not reported to the press/news media by most people who see them because said people don't want to be thought of as loons and don't want to draw a lot of attention to the area or themselves, or attract "bigfoot hunters." Now, mind you, I've seen a lot of weird shit over the years, and I have been pretty far out into the wilderness in many different states and places, and I have never seen anything that would lead me to believe that there's any bigfoots (bigfeet?) out there -- but I mean, South Dakota is South Dakota. It is very isolated outside the towns and small cities, and it is very much a state filled with a vast amount of wilderness. If there's anywhere I've been that could support a bigfoot population, it's the wilderness of the Black Hills. That's not to say I believe they exist, but people who are seeing them are seeing something, and apparently bears are really quite rare in the region -- there are no known bear populations of any sort in the Dakotas. Soooo...there's that.

Anyway. 

I purchased those two shirts, and satisfied enough with them, we left Wall Drug and got back on the highway towards Omaha. 

I will add here that Daisy also felt what I will call the pull of the kitsch and bought a decorative plate with a moose on it for $10. It's now on display in our living room.

It was a relatively uneventful drive. I saw maybe three pronghorn along the side of the road or back up in the fields, but nothing else. I saw almost no real wildlife the entire trip, actually. Maybe all the bigfoot are eating them.

We stopped someplace in the middle of nowhere for gas, at a small truckstop place, where I was able to find yet two more types of energy drink I'd never seen anywhere before -- a new mango Monster for me, and a new type of Rockstar for Daisy. I wish I would've had more time or energy to look around for more souvenir-ish things, but I didn't. I just wanted to be home.

That was our driving force behind the entire drive back, actually -- we just wanted to be home. I wanted to be able to fall asleep in my chair, to sleep in my own bed, to listen to my podcasts or play a game on my computer. To eat real food, to watch Netflix, to chill the fuck out. We'd been running for days, as evidenced by just how long these two posts are, and both of us wanted it all to stop. 

In southeastern South Dakota, moving back into Iowa in the evening hours, we drove through a light rain/thunderstorm as the sun was setting, and it cast a beautiful rainbow across the sky in front of us as we were driving. It was almost as if it was the light at the end of a very long tunnel. 

We pulled into Omaha shortly after dark to find the house and our cats as we had left all of it/them. We let everyone know we were home, unloaded the car, and I finally ate the rest of my pizza from earlier in the day. We took care of the cats and I began doing load after load of laundry to get the smell and dirt of campground and hotel off of all of our belongings. We also showered to cleanse our bodies of trip germs and trip sweat. I don't remember much after that. I don't even know when I went to bed.



Sunday, July 18:
Home.

I'd taken Sunday night off because I needed some rest time. It was part of my original PTO I'd put in for the trip. I told my boss that I didn't know when we'd be back (originally, I really didn't) but I knew that regardless that I'd need a breathing-space day, a buffer day, to reset myself and get ready to return to work. 

During daylight that Sunday, we went over to the parents' to see them and deliver the blanket I'd bought for them -- I decided to keep the blue one, and gave them the green one. Normally I'd pick green over blue (it's the Slytherin in me) but for some reason I thought the parents would enjoy the green one more. I once again lamented that I hadn't bought several more of them. The parents were fine; they'd arrived back home on Friday and had been in "recovery mode" ever since. 

After the parents', we stopped for groceries to restock the house for the next week, and brought them home. Due to the size of our small garage, we always have to unload the car in the driveway and carry the bags into the house, and then put the car in the garage.

"Hold up," I told Daisy, looking over at our trees in the front yard, which we could now see in daylight.

"What?" she asked.

"I need to take a look at this," I told her, stepping out of the car and walking around the second tree in our yard -- the one that wasn't damaged by the storm and barely lost any branches at all.

"This other tree is cracked in half," I told her.

"What?"

"The big tree, the one on the left, it's splitting right down the middle."

The trunk on the larger, undamaged tree forks about halfway up it into two large trunks, which split off into a few smaller ones at it goes up. At the base of the first split, and down into the singular trunk, the tree is quite literally cracked in half. It's not a deep crack, it's not a "this tree is going to fall tomorrow" sort of crack, but it is very noticeable and very indicative of recent damage -- such as the 70+ mph winds that were hitting us during that storm. It won't survive another storm of that caliber -- another storm with strong winds will break it the rest of the way and it will come down, either onto our house or onto the street/neighbors' homes and cars, depending on how it falls.

It has to be removed. As in, completely removed, cut down and taken away. In the time since, Daisy has gotten some estimates -- it's going to be roughly between $850-1000 to get it done, and we'll likely need to have it done ASAP in the event another bad storm rolls through (apparently, for Omaha, severe storm chances and tornado chances rise in August, who knew?). 

It's not like we ever have a spare grand to just blow on tree removal, by the way. If we did have that sort of money on a regular basis, I'd have a car and/or probably a fancy gaming system. Adding insult to it is that the tree is a silver maple, which is worthless for lumber or to loggers because the wood is too soft to use for pretty much anything. Real estate developers plant silver maples all around neighborhoods they're building because they grow quickly, are cheap, and are great shade trees -- all while being not useful for much else. They tend to cause a lot of problems once they get aged and too big -- such as this one. The zoo won't even take branches/cuttings from silver maples to feed the herbivores there; that's how useless they are. 

This brings us back up to the present, pretty much. We have a licensed arborist who is coming to take down the tree over the next few days, and life has basically returned to normal here in Omaha. But, that South Daktota trip was a wild ride, and I hope you all enjoyed reading about it.

I will now return you to your regularly scheduled posts...